Bringing back someone who left you is not an easy task. It’s not even an easy decision. So you don’t only think of ideas on how to get your Sagittarius partner back, you also have to figure out why they left in the first place and how to make them stay after.
Reasons. If your Sagittarius partner decided to end your relationship, chances are, they are feeling caged in. Sagittarians value their freedom. Once they feel the walls are closing in on them they will head for the door and won’t look back. Not saying this is the only thing that would make them walk. But it’s the biggest factor. Generally, Sagittarians can be impatient, wild, and are afraid of commitment. They are playful and flirtatious and if you voice out your concerns and let them know you feel insecure or jealous they will lose their interest. You have to have fun with them because all those flirting are just that, flirting. If a Sagittarius wants to end a relationship, they will tell you. If they don’t do that, there’s nothing to worry about.
This is the same as being clingy. Sagittarians are independent. Naturally, they will want their partners to be independent. Just like them. They will start feeling nervous and might even panic if all your decisions depend on what they want or what they need. If you think you should do this because you want to make them feel or to know they are important to you … STOP. If you’re deciding on something, whether it be big or small, just either make a decision first, tell them, and ask: “what do you think?” or “hey I’d like to get your opinion on this”. For them, getting their opinion is better than making them decide themselves. Also, since Sagittarius people are carefree, and yes sometimes careless, making them feel things rely on their decisions will be scary for them. They are independent people but looking after others can be strenuous if they’re not ready to do that.
Getting A Sagittarius Partner Back. Stalking your Sagittarius ex and sending them countless of messages and gifts won’t bring them back. You can’t make it happen right away. So don’t push it. Be patient in planning and executing the things you should do. For one, act nonchalant about it. You don’t have to act like you don’t care. Just say you’re okay with it if he thinks it is best (even if you’re not). Offer to be friends with him/her. That way you won’t lose touch and will still know what’s going on even if you’re not together.
Now one of the most important things to do is to love yourself. It may sound cheesy but it’s the truth. Sagittarius people will not give importance to people who do not think of themselves as important. Be selfish if you must. It’s not always that bad. People in a relationship generally makes does things to please their partner. Just take time off to pamper yourself and do the things that you want and don’t think about what he wants or what he may think about it. You’re not in a relationship anymore so what he thinks should not matter, really.
Build up your confidence again. Chances are, you broke up because you were feeling insecure and he knows it. Sagittarius people are very attracted to confident women. He wants someone he can take with him anywhere and not worry that she might not fit it.
All of these boil down to defining yourself. Boost your self-worth, feel important and be important. Respect yourself. If you don’t do that no one will. Make them feel like it’s their loss and not yours. If you take care of your own needs, stop being clingy and start feeling attractive they will find you attractive again, they will look at you again and who knows, they might want a second change again. If it’s meant to be it will happen.
I was with a male Sag for 3 months…. he broke up with me the Monday before my birthday (I’m a Gemini female) and told me that he didn’t wanna lead me on any longer. I could tell he wasn’t feeling it for a few weeks, and after, I kinda begged him………. a lot, actually. But I still feel like there’s hope even though he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday and still won’t talk to me. Help, what should I do?!?!?????
hi eileen, after my stupidity on friday morning with the underwear, we had a big chat and it ended up me being quite blunt about the situation and telling her we need to communicate but as her wall was up she wasnt letting me to communicate, I said that i’m at a crossroads that I continue like this or move on, I need intimacy but i’m also torn between her and the kids and having a new life, she then said the usual “why did you do this etc” but I cut her off and said you need to move on from that and forget, I cant have every conversation with you reminded of this, this took her back and I could see that she was shocked and lost for words, anyway she went to the gym and she said she wasnt being rude but she will speak to me later.
anyway that evening she was going out with her friend, she planted a big kiss on my cheek and went, during the night she sent me some flirty texts, in fact they were heavy flirting, she came home early but very drunk, i helped her to bed and she was quite ill but coherent, i tucked her up and she was holding my hand tight “dont go I need you” she said, I asked if she was sure about this and she said “please just stay with me” so I jumped in and cuddled her off to sleep, it was nice and I have to admit it was comfortable and I had a big smile.
Anyway I woke up an hour later to go to the toilet and when I got back she literally pounced on me and started kissing me passionately and we ended up having sex but I stopped it because it wasnt right, we cuddled and spoke for a bit, she said she has guys asking her out all the time but she turns them down, i said do you want me and she said yes I think so but i’m really angry still, you fucked up my head.
woke up in the morning and had a big cuddle off her, joked about me taking advantage of her in the state she was in, we had a nice weekend and she was complimentary about my body and kissed me on the lips last night which she hasnt done since we split (at least sober!) she also said she is warming to me and knows life would be easier if we were together.
Dont know what triggered this after the argument on friday but I wont argue it.
Eileen, I’m trying to be positive and if I look at the bigger picture from the day we split to now, Its definately better and promising.
Steffan! That is fantastic news!!! Wow! That’s so good to hear – persistence pays off ! Well done!
I have had some bad news on job front and my sag was being so supportive. I thought he would ‘judge’ me (sags can put u in a position as if you are ‘letting them down’ especially if you put them on a pedestal which I always seem to do with the men I’m attracted to even when they are not worthy of it!) but he did not. He calmed me down and reassured me that everything was gonna be ok and that I ‘should not despair’. So I was able to ‘open up to him’ and in return he opened up to me and now we are able to make definitive future plans about us living together etc and it has been the closest I have ever felt towards him as it felt as if he could feel how I was feeling and knew what to say to make me feel better and he also kept it up during the weekend to find out how I was doing. I am still jobless but he made me feel better and was there for me when I needed someone whereas normally I would cope on my own and keep my troubles to myself and deal with them in my own way. It’s very hard keeping positive when jobless and having reassurance from someone you care about who is never usually open makes all the difference.
Good news all round Steffan!! Let’s just keep ‘taking it easy’ (that is what my sag would say!) lol
Keep fingers crossed I get work again soon and keep in touch!
I’m so sorry to hear about the job but I guess your happy that your sag is there for you and supporting you again.
I’m going to enjoy my company with her and like you said take it easy, being a virgo i’m so analytical its insane but i took a step back and looked at the bigger picture and its progress, she is opening up and hopefully it will be a new starting point for us and a second chance, fingers crossed
Hi Steffan
Yes! You are going to hv to leave some of those Virgo ‘traits’ behind !! Lol my mother is a Virgo ! They analyse and ‘cut things up ‘ bit by tiny bit!! Lol lol that’s why Virgo and sag hard combination but as I said you did well to last 6 years and you will get over this bump in the road also!!
We will keep going strong! Keep in touch.
Yes our relationship on paper seems a challenge but from day 1 we clicked really well, the only issue we had to compromise on was her bluntness and my sensitive nature to the bluntness!!
Other than that she is perfect for me and I am for her, she has said that many times.
Hi Steffan
Yes! I know where you are coming from! Earth and fire! I think earth does more of the ‘compromising’. My sag shares the same date of birth as my sister (except that he is 2 years older!). They hv the same rising/sun and Venus signs in their charts!
He is in contact we me on a daily basis now !! He wants to ‘come home’! He is restless there now… Not making Iany money either so we are ‘bonding’ over our employment/living (I hv to leave my present accommodation over next few months) and life dilemmas !!! So we are keeping each other ‘propped up’ – first time ever!! But I did warn him that 2014 will be an ‘upheaval’ for us!! And look its June already !!!
Glad things are going good Steffan….
Eileen, I’m glad your relationship with him is getting stronger by the day, its nice to see it develop, clearly he realises how important you are to him.
I asked mine out to the cinema friday but after humming and ahhing she decided its ok if were going as friends as she is not ready to date me, I said clearly i was asking her out on a date because I want to win her back, anyway I acted nonchelant about it and told her it was her loss!!
She says she doesnt want me thinking its more yet we had sex last weekend, all the other bits and bobs she has shown throughout the last few months, she is being very contradictory.
Last night she was absolutely miserable, so much so I said I had to go! I was happy and she was bringing me down, she apologised via text and then asked if I wanted to stay on the sofa!! confusion!!
Hi Steffan
As for me and my sag, I’m taking it ‘step by step’ – u know what they are like!!! So far so good but I am leaving it as that … Lol
You know what I’m going to say to you don’t you…?
Why would she want to ‘date’ you when she can hv you at her beck and call, sleep with you when she wants and hv you sleep on her sofa like a ‘good old English sheep dog’?
Ask yourself that question and let me know what you think and you shall hv your answer?!
Think about it and let me know!
Argghhhh!! I know I know, I have to detach myself from her.
Bloody nightmare this is!!
Steffan – see it as for YOUR well being ! If you ‘distance’ yourself there is more chance of her ‘seeing things clearly’!! Sag females like masculine men – men they cannot ‘twist around their little finger’ – right now you are not coming across as this?! You need to respect yourself and keep your distance and do things for you – yr hobbies, enjoy yr single life again, meets yr friends get yr life back and in time perhaps she will come around ….?!
What do you think ?
Yes your right, in fact I had a good think about this last night and got back in touch with my friends, however my stepdaughter has a blood infection so she had to go in to hospital last night so I had to stay at the house to look after the boys, she is in until Saturday, but I have refrained the texting to her, I signed up to a dating site too to just get some attention, nothing more, I’m not going to lead someone down the wrong road. Been speaking to a few ladies on there and its keeping my mind off the sag and creating space between us, ironically the ladies i’m speaking to are sag’s!! i’m attracting them!
I’m very much in love with my sag but I need this hardship to make her want me or miss me, could possibly be the last throw of the dice for me
Steffan – sorry to hear about yr daughter. I do hope she recovers soon.
I also attract a lot of fire or earth to me .. Perhaps because I have a three fire placements in my chart or also air and fire signs no matter how free they may feel, they also realise they need ‘stablizing’ so they attach themselves to earth signs….
It’s a good move for you. 6 years is a long time with someone you now need to allow time to adjust; get to know yourself as a single person (I’ve been single and celebate for 10 years – and I enjoy it!!!). It’s great feeling of pride to be independent of anyone and loving being alone. Yes. Get out and meet new people and just socialise and build up your confidence again. Do it for you. If your sag and you are meant to be together in the long run it will happen. You need to do this for YOU. But you it is a mistake you made and hopefully a lesson learned. Always be true to who you are. Never make the same mistake again that you made with your sag. If you feel you cannot be accepted or loved for who you naturally truly are …. Then walk away….
Steffan – CORRECTION – I meant to say I attract mainly fire and air signs …!
I’ve been doing good, texting is to a minimum and not spent any time with her outside of the kids, however we argued last night, I told her that I thought she was using me etc, kept me hanging on a string etc, back and forth it went until I gave up and went.
A couple of months back she blocked me from twitter, guess what I had at 7 am this morning? You have a new follower on twitter?! Although she doesn’t follow me now but she unblocked me?! What the hell is going on in her head!
Steffan – I hv given up trying to figure out what goes on in a sags head (didn’t want to get brain damage trying to figure it out!! Lol lol)!!
The ‘space’ between you both will do you good as I am finding that the more often my sag and I hv contact with each other the more ‘drawn in’ I become and want more.. So after after hving so much contact with him over this last month I’m not gonna be in contact with him for at least the next few days !!! It helps me to ‘balance’ things….
I hv realised that with FB and twitter – they are not even ‘real’ they are ‘virtual’! So they play no importance in my life any more… Sags like ‘games’ too…. Just don’t rise to it… Pretend like you don’t know she has unblocked you….
It’s hard Steffan…
Yep it is hard, I’ve had my son all weekend and I’ve had to step in to another room because I was getting upset, everything with me is hanging in the balance, being a virgo I don’t like it and need a plan, she has never had space from me and this weekend is the longest we have spent apart, we’re not speaking either with sporadic arguments via text, I’m going to bite the bullet and not see the kids this week, it has to be done for my own sanity, I’m going crazy, the pain is going to unbelievable but I’m not really getting anywhere fast by being there.
Just want to know where I’m heading
Hi Steffan
Im so sorry to hear this. I know what you mean re ‘plan’. Sags live ‘day by day’ (I wish I cld do this) but being an earth sign I am always ‘planning’.
It must be hard for you having children and I don’t pretend what you must be going through right now.
I hv a few suggestions below:
1. Did no one think or suggest to you both counselling or mediation?
2. It may be a good time to now tell the children so you do not hv to keep up the ‘pretence’ of a family unit when there is not one and which seems to be doing you more harm than good.
3. Do you have a close friend or family member who can act as a ‘go between’ to pick up the kids and take them from their home to you return them again so that you do not hv to see or interact with yr partner? Just until you are emotionly strong enough?
4. If the children are made aware of the situation then you can see them in YOUR OWN environment and not your partners which would make it easier for you and they will eventually adapt to this?
5. Instead of not seeing the kids at all this week how about ‘slowly’ easing yourself into what may become your new way of life by seeing the kids a couple of times a week and at wkends to begin with and then ease into just wkends over time?
6. Don’t see the kids inside the house. Go, collect and take them to a park or a restaurant or activity centre anything but stay away from the house. Spend time with them then just sony drop them off?
What do you think of the above?
Things are tense right now and less arguments you hv with each other the better things will be in the long run. So less interaction with her the better… Just until you are emotionally strong enough and that is going to take time.
E
Hi
Here goes:
1. I have pushed and pushed for counselling but she refuses because she doesn’t want to be in a situation where she is a couple with me, I think she is scared to because it might change her mind and she won’t be in control?
2. I suggested this again this weekend and she said she us not going to shatter the kids lives because I’m not having a good time.
3.unfortunately no, we live somewhere surrounded by her family and friends, I’ll have to deal with seeing her when I pick the kids up, I don’t mind this.
4.yes I have said this too but for some reason she doesn’t want to entertain this idea, hence me feeling positive that she doesn’t want the kids to know about us but today I’m realising it’s because she is scared to tell them because of their love for me.
5.yes I have a day off Tuesday so I’ll pick my boy up as usual and I’ll pick my stepdaughter up from gymnastics on Wednesday and maybe pick them up on Friday for some food, I’m going to visit my friends on Saturday night and maybe I’ll see them Sunday night after work, no more mornings though, that is finished.
6.yes I don’t want to step inside the house anymore, bad memories for me,
To be honest I’ve heard through a mutual friend she started seeing someone again this weekend, whether it’s the same guy I don’t know but I’ve had it with her now, I’ve been mortified and upset today, I don’t trust her anymore and this looks bleak as it can get, we’re not speaking and after finding this out it has torn my heart apart, I don’t understand her thinking sometimes, it scares me how emotionless she is, I messed up I get that but she is making sure she buries me for good.
I don’t feel good and I’m going to grab myself by the scruff of the neck and wake up and move on, I love her to bits but I’m hurting too much
Steffan
1. So you are basically saying she does not ever want a relationship.
2. She is protecting herself as she would hv to tell the children that you made a mistake and she was not prepared to forgive you or seek counselling or make any attempt to repair the relationship. The kids will see her as the destroyer of their family unit and her image shattered?! I think u need to put yr ‘masculine foot forward’ and TELL the kids whether she likes it or not?! Why should you be the sacrificial lamb?!
3. Cool.
4. Their love for will never fade. You just need to let them know you fought for your family until.
5. Good plan.
6. Yes. Understandable.
I am presuming that this was not the first time you were not totally honest with her and perhaps this was the ‘last straw’ for her but if so she should hv been honest enough to tell you but that meant she would have to “come clean” with the kids about the status of the relationship and be branded a “home wrecker” so better to keep you “dangling” and save face?
I am truly sorry. But she did give you 6 years, children and seems as if she gave you a few chances too..
It’s gonna be hard. I resonate with how you feel. Its like a pain as if someone has died and that your heart is physically breaking…
I am always here for you. Look after yourself and remember your children NEED YOU.
E
We text this morning and agreed that kids are no1, she asked how I’m planning to see them if I can’t come in the house, I said I don’t know, she said she isn’t ready to tell the kids yet at least until they are emotionally stable enough to take it.
She said she doesn’t want to say there is hope to me because if I don’t like something I throw it back at her ( there’s the hook again! ) I’m just going to concentrate on my babies and see what happens, my heart is in pieces but frustratingly still yearns for her which scares me.
I’m not seeing them tonight and I’ve stopped mornings, life was too easy for her, especially mornings, I’m petrified and nervous.
Wish I didn’t love her so much
Steffan. I totally understand where you are coming. The children as if they are of the age of understanding. The ‘hold’ she had over you know is the children and She is happy to use them as an excuse. The sooner you tell the kids you will be ‘free’ and will feel very differently about yourself and the whole situation. Only you can free yourself from this situation – not her or anyone else.
Remember your feelings are ‘wasted’ if she does not feel the same which she does not. She is even seeing others. You just need to concentrate on yourself and the kids. How old are they?
They are 9,8 and 3, I don’t know what to do, I don’t think I can bring myself to override her and tell them?
Steffan
It is yr decision and those children are old enough to understand. Her “decisions” are why you are not a family now. If this incident that you did happened last year it should hv been resolved by now but you are letting her “control” everything as if she is the man in the relationship instead of you ! Your situation will remain the same until yuh deal with it. I bet if she were to meet someone new and it became “serious” she would hv to tell the kids then wouldn’t she?! Those kids already know things aren’t right. They are not stupid. Children are smarter and more intuitive than adults give them credit for.
It’s your life and your call but think about it.
Ps. Steffan this sounds harsh but she knows how much you love which makes you ‘putty in her hands’ and she is using it whenever she wants. She finished with you before Nov 13 and got back with you and dumped you again in Feb. You are exactly where she wants you.
Ok update, I should be an investigator! Just seen a car outside of her house, it’s a guy from the gym who is married, think they have kids too, so she is having an affair with a married man, I’ve just had closure, I can’t be dealing with someone with such low morals, she disgusts me
Steffan
So she does not want you To tell the kids but she obviously has a man inside the house? Although she may not be having an affair with him?! I would not jump to conclusions but i suggest you speak to the kids and sort yourself out. Do what is best for you. Some people can’t manage to be on their own…..
She is casually seeing someone she said, I’ve had enough and I’ve left, ok he isn’t married I was wrong there, but I said I can’t step inside the house, she said she hasn’t led me in she was just kind, typical answer from her as she never wants to look bad to anyone.
I’m very upset, I met the kids at the bus stop this morning and they gave me the biggest hugs, got me going but I held it together.
Life goes on, I still love her and I’m scared that my feeling for her is not diminishing, the old steffan would have stuck 2 fingers up at her after her going with other men but for some reason which I think is kids, I still have feeling, not just any feeling but a strong one, she knows this and can play it, but now I have removed myself from the house, she has lost some control, I’ll be seeing the kids after school and take them somewhere but I’ll drop them back, they are going to ask questions I know they are.
Hi Steffan
I am sincerely sorry to hear this. You just have to now concentrate as much as you can on yourself and your well being which will be beneficial for you and yr kids. At least no one can ever say you did not give it yr very best shot.
It’s obvious the guy she is seeing is a ‘rebound’ but the fact of the matter is sags have lots of pride and would put that first above anything else. So I am presuming if the shoes were on the other foot and you were seeing Someone and she was not – her feelings for you would hv diminished as her “pride” and “ego” would hv taken a “bruising” … So think of this every time your feelings for her gets out of control. But you need to “mourn” also… 6 years with a person is a long time. Perhaps she was not the right one for you in the end cause if in the beginning when you first met and you were at ease with her you would perhaps would have allowed the “real” you to show through instead of pretending to be something you are not and this would not have happened?
My sister is a sag and they really can have this ‘holier than thou’ ‘i am so fabulous’ attitude!
I am here any time you want to talk. Enjoy yr time with the kids.
E
Yeah I spoke to a sag female earlier and she said it’s definately casual, she has had the taste of single life and is enjoying it, this other guy is a sag too that she is seeing. However this sag I spoke to said she will have a rude awakening because good men are hard to find and this sag has been single for 5 years! Not being harsh but the guys she is seeing are 25, she is 36 and they are not interested in long term with someone with 3 kids.
Hi Steffan
I guess with her being a sag she would not what sag men are about. But after she has been with someone else (even though you both split up) would you want her back? I’m not sure if I would… But that is just me..
So she is obviously seeing a few at the same time? You need to make sure that you speak to her to make sure she is not exposing all these different men ie non serious men to your children?
She swears the kids are not exposed to it and I believe her but I do worry when she has a man there and the older child sleepwalks a lot and if he sees another guy in a compromising position with her and that guy isn’t me, but she said that will never happen, so bloody arrogant, I find her a very selfish person.
If she does want me back I will assess then, but the old steffan wouldn’t entertain the idea after she has been with someone else, but I have 3 beautiful kids but mentally I don’t think I could overcome that issue.
Steffan. That is only her word.
If she is bringing them home then the children are being exposed in some form or other and if I were you I would put my foot down and demand that she does not bring men that she hardly knows into the family home!!! She needs to get a family member to baby sit and meet these men at THEIR homes or somewhere else!!
You are too ‘easy going’. If it were me – this would be one area I would NOT LET UP ON.
Steffan
You don’t need to be in a relationship with her to have a good relationship with your children or to see your children. You can’t let someone have ‘ownership’ of you! Besides her being a sag, she sure as hell would not !
Eileen, I tried this the first time round and it got me nowhere, as far as she is concerned it’s her house and she can do what she wants and she will then proceed to blame me for putting her in this mess where she has to invite men over.
I’m drained from arguing with her, there is no other way except her way. She will talk over me and tell me what I should be saying, I’ve had a gutsful, I can argue with the best of them but she is just difficult to argue with because she uses my guilt against me.
Hi Steffan
The men I know would not put up with that any woman – not even my sag wouldn’t!!! If you are paying towards the mortgage to then it is your house also.
All I know is if there were my child, I would not hv anyone bring different men into my child’s house. There’s too much risk these days …
But it is your life Steffan and yr child (the family is now split do only one legitimate child belongs to you ) and it’s your decision.
I am here if you ever need to talk.
Steffan
Ps. How does she justify blaming you for putting her in a position whereby she has to invite men over to the house?
She has just finished a 6 year relationship with you! What’s wrong with her being single and just concentrating on her children?!
She blames me for the break up , me for the fact she has to invite men to the house, me that she is a single mother with 3 kids…… the list goes on, she is actually a lovely woman but I have crossed her and the way she deals with things is to dispose of me and start somewhere else, I havent seen one bit of emotion from her during this break up, it comes across as really cold but her words via text are different and when she was drunk she was sobbing about us but thats it. She was very loving and intimate towards me but I crossed the line and I see the sag shut off mechanism.
This is a mid life crisis she is going through, I have no doubt, she was depressed at turning 30, it was quite bad so she is getting all these young bucks after one thing from her and she will be left alone again……but…….. this time I wont be there to pick up the pieces, then it will hit her what a good genuine, devoted guy I am, the best dad to the kids and always putting the family first, I have changed since my indiscretion, I was desperate but I’m stable now, I will move on but I guarantee you that she will come knocking on my door in months maybe years but I left a footprint on her soul that will not go away, I will always have a place for her in my heart but I need to find a woman who will love and support me.
She yearns intimacy on another level so kids are put to one side while she gets her kicks, sad i know but this is what happened when we got together.
She blames me for the break up , me for the fact she has to invite men to the house, me that she is a single mother with 3 kids…… the list goes on, she is actually a lovely woman but I have crossed her and the way she deals with things is to dispose of me and start somewhere else, I havent seen one bit of emotion from her during this break up, it comes across as really cold but her words via text are different and when she was drunk she was sobbing about us but thats it. She was very loving and intimate towards me but I crossed the line and I see the sag shut off mechanism.
This is a mid life crisis she is going through, I have no doubt, she was depressed at turning 30, it was quite bad so she is getting all these young bucks after one thing from her and she will be left alone again……but…….. this time I wont be there to pick up the pieces, then it will hit her what a good genuine, devoted guy I am, the best dad to the kids and always putting the family first, I have changed since my indiscretion, I was desperate but I’m stable now, I will move on but I guarantee you that she will come knocking on my door in months maybe years but I left a footprint on her soul that will not go away, I will always have a place for her in my heart but I need to find a woman who will love and support me.
Steffan
How can she have a mid life crisis at aged 30!!! What a joke! I’m 48 – young at heart footloose and fancy free!!!
If that is her attittude she better not have any more kids then..
Trust me .. You are right… Sags and many other fire/air and water signs ALWAYS come back to the Earth signs to ‘stabilize’ them once they realize their ‘grounded support network’ that they could once rely on (which they took for granted) is no longer there …. Most of the time too late. Once Earth signs become strong after the loss of a relationship and they want to come back – NO CHANCE! I’ve been their twice (Aquarius and Gemini) – once we totally give everything to try to make something work and that person things they have the ‘upper hand’ – when they come ‘crawling back’ (and they will) for them it’s the biggest loss they will ever experience. My ex (aquarius I was married to) never “settled” again. My ex gemini wanted to return after 8 months split – NO CHANCE to both!!! That was 10 years ago!
Astrology always want to paint earth signs as ‘clingy’ and ‘boring’ when we are the most independent of the whole bunch underneath. We are just not ‘pretentious’ or ‘fake’ whereas Geminis and Sags pretend to be something they are not!!! Very dependent !
I’m sorry your mistake cost you yr relationship. Perhaps she felt this was the last straw as she had forgiven you quite a few times before and maybe this was the final nail in the coffin. Also if she is only 30 now she would hv met you at 24 and having children already at that it’s pretty obvious she has had no time for any ‘fun’ and to enjoy her singledom. So even if you did not make this error it may hv come to an end later on anyway! Not great from your perspective but I am assuming you are roughly the same age as her so maybe it is time you enjoyed yr youth while you still can?
Don’t let her blame you for her having three kids. She should use family planning and be more decisive about who she is going to breed with?!! Perhaps you should advise her that she should make sure she does not have any more as you will not be there this time to ‘clear up her crap’…. Do not let her put the blame on you.
I can guarantee you that those young dudes will play her, use and dump her when they have had their fill. I attract a lot of young men as I look extrmemly young for my age and am young at heart with a lot of energy and they never get past one date with me. If they get as far as date two that IS the last one!!! Lol lol I am so bored! My sag is 51 which makes it a little easier to deal! I had a young 35 year old sag ‘pursuing’ me a couple months ago. I blank told him ‘not to bother me’!! A male sag age 51 is enough to deal with!!!
You need to find someone who will value you, stand by you and support you and work together through thick and thin as a ‘team/unit’.
You just look after yourself mentally and physically. You are young and hv plenty of time to start again. There is a big world out there – travel – go out there and explore it. She has set you ‘free’ !! She is now ‘tied’ and will struggle … But that’s what she wants so let her have it! See the kids when YOU want to! Go places see stuff travel and let her know YOUR adventures! Let her know that sags Are not the only adventurous exciting people on the planet! Travel and send her postcards … That will “get her back”… SHE SET YOU FREE – ENJOY IT!!!
Ha yes I have a burning desire in me to make sure she sees me having fun and doing things without her, I want her to be sad and suffer.
By the way were both 36, I started seeing her just after her 30th but knew her for years before.
To be honest it was in the back of my head that she would stray because her relationship before me was 10 yrs plus mine thats 16 years with 2 guys, I always feared the worst that she was going to play the field so I think your right she would have left me anyway.
I cant wait for the day she begs me to come back and I will have the pleasure of getting my string out and letting her dangle from it!! ha
Steffan, as I thought you are very young!!! I will never understand how people can go from one relationship straight into another! She must must hate spending time with herself!! I love being alone and spending quality time by myself. Sag women seem to be ‘stickers’ for long term relationships ! My sag sis met her hubby 17-18 – she is 50 this year and still married to him!! My longest is 7 years (ex hubby) and ex bf (4 years). I love to travel and see people different cultures places etc been to 17 countries and 60 locations all in 4 star hotels in some of the most exotic places in the world!!!! I LOVE IT!! I am Taurus!! Lol lol lol Not just sags can hv fun!! Lol
The fact you took a ‘risk’ with her in the first place knowing she had gotten out of a 10 year relationship and having two kids is kinda crazy !!! Lol lol – not me … As warning signs already there.. But you can’t beat chemistry or who you fall for (unless they are attached or married – definite no no in my book!!).
You get out there and see the world and hv yr fun ‘youngster’ 😉 lol lol You will realize she has done YOU a favour!
Ha thanks, In fact I’m off on a date tonight with a scorpio, I’m not going to go overboard it will just be nice to get female attention and company.
Although I’m not sure what scorpio’s are like!!
Steffan – once she knows you are out enjoying yourself (keep your saddness locked in side – don’t let her see this part of you) and your vitality and energy is as a young dude her ‘ego’ will take a serious HIT! Trust me on that! You get her back by letting her know that you do not need her and you are happy enjoying your single life! Travel – get a group of male friends and hv ‘boys holidays’ – that’s what i used to do with my girls!! She will be dying inside with envy, want and regret! You will no doubt have even more money in yr pocket too!! Quids in!! 😉 lol lol
Steffan – good luck with Scorpio!! I’m not that brave!! Lol lol lol
Read up on them and be prepared – psycho!!! Psychos of the Zodiac!! 😉 lol lol
Just enjoy “socialising’ with other people again …
Let me know how you get on! Hv fun!!
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Ha thanks, its ok i’m going to find myself first and enjoy life a bit, she seems nice but company will be nice tonight.
Feeling better as the day went along, thinking less about my sag and keeping occupied helps. Not text her either apart from her texting me about when i’m seeing kids next (clearly organising her social life!) I told her when and so far she was happy with what i suggested although she asked me to be there tonight while she trains!!! I said no! she puts it in a way that she is doing me a favour and after I said no she replied with “ok Its just after you stated you wanted to spend as much time as you can with the kids i offered” typical guilt trip.
I’m going to be happy, I’m going to be bubbly, I’m going to batter Instagram with pictures of me out with my friends etc.
She has blocked me on most social sites except Instagram, even on facebook she will see whats going on because we have so many mutual friends.
Steffan I am seriously sorry about your relationship not working – I know she means the world to you and it Is painful without a doubt and you will have your emotions being up and down but just accept them in whatever form they take and you will get stronger with time.
Exactly, as I said you see the kids when YOU want to not when she wants you (organizing her social life and hv you as a ‘sitter’)! Good say ‘no’ when she suggests and let her know you are standing your group. Those young men will get bored enough when they find out that the mum of three can’t leave the house !!! Lol lol lol Do not let her use the kids as a ‘tool’ to ‘guilt trip’ you! Work out yr social life in advance and get her to slot the time around yours! Lol lol
She can “block” you (pathetic really you share kids and it’s only virtual anyway!) but she won’t be able to ‘escape’.. People within yr social sphere will tell her all and all those people who were against her and wanted you to give up on her will be there to support you now! 😉
Stay strong.
HI Eileen, it was nice to take my mind off things last night and to talk to someone who was oblivious of my life in the last year, its not going to go further as I’m not ready and dont have any feelings for her but it was nice to socialise.
Had big arguments this morning over money with the sag, Its messy and she is being unreasonable and using the classic “you did this, you did that” I told her its tiresome.
I was a bit upset this morning about it but at lunch time I pulled myself together and got down to a gym by my work which specialise in a sport called cross fit, a friend of mine competes at a high level and she told me to get down there as it will clear my head, get me pumped and fit again and the social scene is great, so I went down and the guys were awsome, felt so welcome, cant wait to start on monday.
On this dating site I saw a girl who was gorgeous and I recognised her and it said we shared a mutual friend, that friend was my sister so I asked my sister who she was etc and its my sis best friend from school, so I joked to put a good word in for me! ha.
Anyway who is a member of this new gym? my sisters friend!!Is fate dealing me a hand here!! so we will see how it goes, dont want to jump in to something so early, but she is exactly what I like in a woman.