How to Win Sagittarius Back: 8 Counter-Intuitive Measures

You’re not the first one to let Sagittarius slip through your fingers. The archer is a free bird that needs to fly. But you miss the adventure, the meandering conversations, the hot, all-night sex…and you want it all back.

Sagittarius is very forgiving, but once it decides to go, it’s gone for good. Sure, you may meet for a drink every now and then, but Sagittarius doesn’t go back to exes. The good news is that the uncommitted archer may not have considered you a significant other in the first place. It’s not impossible to win Sagittarius back, but it’s very difficult.

Honestly, if you want Sagittarius back, you’ll have to think outside the box. If you can do that, and if you’re willing to wait a little, you just might get this one to come back.

Always do these things if you want Sagittarius back:

Do: Make yourself scarce to Sagittarius after the break-up. This curious sign loves all things exotic and foreign. Make yourself unknowable and unfamiliar to them. Don’t unfriend them, but don’t keep them in the loop. They should do a double-take when they see you again. You should have new things to talk about.

Do: Suggest doing something in the outdoors or near where they live or work so they can run away from you if needed. Yes, it seems odd, but Sagittarius is claustrophobic. It doesn’t want to confront a potentially sad or angry person from across a table, especially if there is any hint that you invited them there to air your grievances or beg them to come back. They don’t want to be stuck somewhere where they have to pretend to leave early and then wait around for the bus.

Do: Talk to them first, and keep all talk light-hearted and future-minded. Sagittarius isn’t nostalgic and hates talking about the past unless it’s funny. You can remind them of the good times, but you can’t make them want to relive them.

Do: Promise a more interesting/better future together. The past is gone, and that is where Sagittarius wants it to stay. If you do get back together, you should look forward to a brand new relationship and a brand new life, even if it’s just living in a different town.

And never do these things:

Don’t grovel, cry, or get dramatic. Drama is one of the things that make Sagittarius run in the first place. They can’t handle it. If they see something is wrong, they will avoid it. If you’re sad and crying – especially if they know you’re sad and letting the whole world know about it – they will stay away. They’ll think they were clearly justified in breaking up with a hot mess like you.

Instead: Next time you see them, act like everything is okay. Don’t act like you hate them. Just act like the entire relationship never happened.

Don’t even try guilt. Ever. Elaborating on the above, attempting to guilt a Sagittarius will get you nowhere quickly. Yeah, they will give in for a moment. After all, they do have a conscience. But they know what game you’re playing. They like competition, but this is fighting dirty to them. They don’t buy the idea that they have to fix the heartbreak you think they caused: Sagittarius believes that we cause our own heartbreaks.

Instead: Move on. Get a life. Stop worrying about them. Go do cool, awesome things with your life. Be the kind of amazing person they want to hang around with, and they will be drawn to you like a moth to a fire.

Trying to get other people involved. Don’t send your friend, your brother, your mother, or anyone else to try to intervene on your behalf. Sagittarius doesn’t appreciate you sending an ambassador to plead your case. This is a sign that being with you means that their ability to live as they please will be hampered by your family and friends, so they were justified in breaking up with you.

Instead: Don’t badmouth them or pump their people for info. Avoid talking about Sagittarius with your mutual friends.

Don’t Rebound. Sagittarius isn’t a jealous sign, but it’s oblivious to attempts to make it jealous. If you plaster your Instagram with pictures of you and your new bae (oh, and if you also call that person “bae,” FORGET IT), the archer thinks that you’ve happily moved on, and there is no getting back together. After all, everything in the universe happens for a reason, and you finding a new and better lover must be the silver lining to the break up.

Instead: Be confident and cool as a single person. Sagittarius can’t stand needy people, and being at ease with being single is very attractive to them. After all, they prize their own independence, so why shouldn’t you?

1. Sagittarius is adventurous and open-minded. It loves the exotic and different, including cultures, people, and ways of thinking. They prefer the values and ways of any culture but their own. They long to travel abroad and may live abroad at some point.

2. Sagittarius is low maintenance. All they need is space…lots of space, to be free to come and free to go. All they need is their freedom. The laundry, the bills, and the responsibilities can wait.

3. They’re born comedians. Sagittarius sees the world in a different way from everyone else, and they always see humor in everything, even in things others would prefer they didn’t.

4. It’s hard to insult a Sagittarius. Sticks and stones may break their bones, but words don’t actually hurt them. Words just don’t mean much to them. They may even laugh if you insult them well, but beware: they have no problem insulting you back, and it will cut right to the bone.

5. Sagittarius loves the outdoors and walking around. They’re most at peace when outside in wide, open spaces and miserable when cooped up in cramped, crowded spaces, like a classroom or office.

6. Sagittarius seeks knowledge and will go to the ends of the earth to find it. They’re lifelong students, who value knowledge about all else, and will spend their lifetimes seeking the truth about everything.

7. The are honest, outspoken loudmouths who exaggerate but they do it so well that they easily persuade others to agree with them. They will say what others are afraid to say. Knowing that others want to hide the truth makes them more determined to reveal it.

8. Sagittarius is independent and hates being told what to do. Try to impose your will on them and they will simply step aside. If you keep trying, they will torture you with psychological warfare until they can escape from you forever.

9. If you want to date a Sagittarius, don’t act like you want to date them. They fear commitment and labels, but they can do friendship. Let them come to the conclusion that you’re an item and that you’re special.

10. Sagittarius doesn’t do cliques, mean girls, or in crowds. Excluding them doesn’t work because they don’t want to be included. They have a way of making their own in-crowd and eclectic group of wonderful weirdoes from everyone who was left out.
11. Sagittarius is happy to spend the day wandering anywhere. Don’t expect them to honor schedules, routines, or deadlines. They can if they have to, but they most prefer unstructured time. Tell them to take their time and they absolutely will.

12. Sagittarius is your friend for life. Years pass and they can pick up where they left off with you. They don’t really miss anyone, because everyone they love is always with them in their hearts.