How to Win Sagittarius Back: 8 Counter-Intuitive Measures
You’re not the first one to let Sagittarius slip through your fingers. The archer is a free bird that needs to fly. But you miss the adventure, the meandering conversations, the hot, all-night sex…and you want it all back.
Sagittarius is very forgiving, but once it decides to go, it’s gone for good. Sure, you may meet for a drink every now and then, but Sagittarius doesn’t go back to exes. The good news is that the uncommitted archer may not have considered you a significant other in the first place. It’s not impossible to win Sagittarius back, but it’s very difficult.
Honestly, if you want Sagittarius back, you’ll have to think outside the box. If you can do that, and if you’re willing to wait a little, you just might get this one to come back.
Always do these things if you want Sagittarius back:
Do: Make yourself scarce to Sagittarius after the break-up. This curious sign loves all things exotic and foreign. Make yourself unknowable and unfamiliar to them. Don’t unfriend them, but don’t keep them in the loop. They should do a double-take when they see you again. You should have new things to talk about.
Do: Suggest doing something in the outdoors or near where they live or work so they can run away from you if needed. Yes, it seems odd, but Sagittarius is claustrophobic. It doesn’t want to confront a potentially sad or angry person from across a table, especially if there is any hint that you invited them there to air your grievances or beg them to come back. They don’t want to be stuck somewhere where they have to pretend to leave early and then wait around for the bus.
Do: Talk to them first, and keep all talk light-hearted and future-minded. Sagittarius isn’t nostalgic and hates talking about the past unless it’s funny. You can remind them of the good times, but you can’t make them want to relive them.
Do: Promise a more interesting/better future together. The past is gone, and that is where Sagittarius wants it to stay. If you do get back together, you should look forward to a brand new relationship and a brand new life, even if it’s just living in a different town.
And never do these things:
Don’t grovel, cry, or get dramatic. Drama is one of the things that make Sagittarius run in the first place. They can’t handle it. If they see something is wrong, they will avoid it. If you’re sad and crying – especially if they know you’re sad and letting the whole world know about it – they will stay away. They’ll think they were clearly justified in breaking up with a hot mess like you.
Instead: Next time you see them, act like everything is okay. Don’t act like you hate them. Just act like the entire relationship never happened.
Don’t even try guilt. Ever. Elaborating on the above, attempting to guilt a Sagittarius will get you nowhere quickly. Yeah, they will give in for a moment. After all, they do have a conscience. But they know what game you’re playing. They like competition, but this is fighting dirty to them. They don’t buy the idea that they have to fix the heartbreak you think they caused: Sagittarius believes that we cause our own heartbreaks.
Instead: Move on. Get a life. Stop worrying about them. Go do cool, awesome things with your life. Be the kind of amazing person they want to hang around with, and they will be drawn to you like a moth to a fire.
Trying to get other people involved. Don’t send your friend, your brother, your mother, or anyone else to try to intervene on your behalf. Sagittarius doesn’t appreciate you sending an ambassador to plead your case. This is a sign that being with you means that their ability to live as they please will be hampered by your family and friends, so they were justified in breaking up with you.
Instead: Don’t badmouth them or pump their people for info. Avoid talking about Sagittarius with your mutual friends.
Don’t Rebound. Sagittarius isn’t a jealous sign, but it’s oblivious to attempts to make it jealous. If you plaster your Instagram with pictures of you and your new bae (oh, and if you also call that person “bae,” FORGET IT), the archer thinks that you’ve happily moved on, and there is no getting back together. After all, everything in the universe happens for a reason, and you finding a new and better lover must be the silver lining to the break up.
Instead: Be confident and cool as a single person. Sagittarius can’t stand needy people, and being at ease with being single is very attractive to them. After all, they prize their own independence, so why shouldn’t you?