How to Win Sagittarius Back: 8 Counter-Intuitive Measures

You’re not the first one to let Sagittarius slip through your fingers. The archer is a free bird that needs to fly. But you miss the adventure, the meandering conversations, the hot, all-night sex…and you want it all back.

Sagittarius is very forgiving, but once it decides to go, it’s gone for good. Sure, you may meet for a drink every now and then, but Sagittarius doesn’t go back to exes. The good news is that the uncommitted archer may not have considered you a significant other in the first place. It’s not impossible to win Sagittarius back, but it’s very difficult.

Honestly, if you want Sagittarius back, you’ll have to think outside the box. If you can do that, and if you’re willing to wait a little, you just might get this one to come back.

Always do these things if you want Sagittarius back:

Do: Make yourself scarce to Sagittarius after the break-up. This curious sign loves all things exotic and foreign. Make yourself unknowable and unfamiliar to them. Don’t unfriend them, but don’t keep them in the loop. They should do a double-take when they see you again. You should have new things to talk about.

Do: Suggest doing something in the outdoors or near where they live or work so they can run away from you if needed. Yes, it seems odd, but Sagittarius is claustrophobic. It doesn’t want to confront a potentially sad or angry person from across a table, especially if there is any hint that you invited them there to air your grievances or beg them to come back. They don’t want to be stuck somewhere where they have to pretend to leave early and then wait around for the bus.

Do: Talk to them first, and keep all talk light-hearted and future-minded. Sagittarius isn’t nostalgic and hates talking about the past unless it’s funny. You can remind them of the good times, but you can’t make them want to relive them.

Do: Promise a more interesting/better future together. The past is gone, and that is where Sagittarius wants it to stay. If you do get back together, you should look forward to a brand new relationship and a brand new life, even if it’s just living in a different town.

And never do these things:

Don’t grovel, cry, or get dramatic. Drama is one of the things that make Sagittarius run in the first place. They can’t handle it. If they see something is wrong, they will avoid it. If you’re sad and crying – especially if they know you’re sad and letting the whole world know about it – they will stay away. They’ll think they were clearly justified in breaking up with a hot mess like you.

Instead: Next time you see them, act like everything is okay. Don’t act like you hate them. Just act like the entire relationship never happened.

Don’t even try guilt. Ever. Elaborating on the above, attempting to guilt a Sagittarius will get you nowhere quickly. Yeah, they will give in for a moment. After all, they do have a conscience. But they know what game you’re playing. They like competition, but this is fighting dirty to them. They don’t buy the idea that they have to fix the heartbreak you think they caused: Sagittarius believes that we cause our own heartbreaks.

Instead: Move on. Get a life. Stop worrying about them. Go do cool, awesome things with your life. Be the kind of amazing person they want to hang around with, and they will be drawn to you like a moth to a fire.

Trying to get other people involved. Don’t send your friend, your brother, your mother, or anyone else to try to intervene on your behalf. Sagittarius doesn’t appreciate you sending an ambassador to plead your case. This is a sign that being with you means that their ability to live as they please will be hampered by your family and friends, so they were justified in breaking up with you.

Instead: Don’t badmouth them or pump their people for info. Avoid talking about Sagittarius with your mutual friends.

Don’t Rebound. Sagittarius isn’t a jealous sign, but it’s oblivious to attempts to make it jealous. If you plaster your Instagram with pictures of you and your new bae (oh, and if you also call that person “bae,” FORGET IT), the archer thinks that you’ve happily moved on, and there is no getting back together. After all, everything in the universe happens for a reason, and you finding a new and better lover must be the silver lining to the break up.

Instead: Be confident and cool as a single person. Sagittarius can’t stand needy people, and being at ease with being single is very attractive to them. After all, they prize their own independence, so why shouldn’t you?

Sometimes a Sagittarius seem to possess a multi-layered personality that it’s hard to know how to act around them. He may have that come what may attitude but he can also be an intense and dedicated lover. He’ll constantly spring up with new ideas and activities that would keep you on your toes. He’ll surprise you with home cooked meals and small tokens for gifts when he feels like it. If you have a Sagittarius partner you will know that they are a romantic through and through. You will also know that they can sometimes do something different from what they say. Not that they’re fickle, they just act on impulse most of the times and rely on their instincts. So even if they planned to do something with you over the weekend it could still change depending on his mood.

This varying persona creates a confusion as to what the Archer expects or needs from a partner. But observing his different activities and moods will also give you an insight on how to interact with him and give him what he needs. It’s actually that simple.

For starters, you have to have a sharp brain. You’ll notice how he takes a liking to philosophical and intellectual movies, books, or any other type of media. He likes solving puzzles and won’t stop until he figures something out. In this case you should also stimulate your brain and smarten up to make sure you keep up with him. He’d like someone of the same intellectual capacity. He’d get bored if he can’t talk to you about the thing that interests him.

Sports and socializing. Odd combination? Not really. He’s a very physical guy with a lot of energy to spend so make sure he spends it the way that would benefit you both. It’s never too late to learn a sport. If he offers to take you with him or teach you how his sport go for it. If he doesn’t then ask if you can. If you’re not a sporty type of person just try. Who knows, you might actually like it. If you decide you don’t both of you can try a new sport. Something both of you may like. And if all else fails, you can always go to his game with his friends and cheer for him. You can meet his friends’ girlfriends too. As for socializing, this in itself is energy consuming. But there are also activities that will help you socialize. Dancing for example. Go out and party with him. It could be with your friends and his friends or just the two of you hitting the club making mew friends. He’d like that. He likes to meet new people so encouraging him to do so by going with him would make him love you more.

Sex. Not just lots of it. A variety of it. You may say he’s a guy and it’s a given. Although this is true, keep in mind that the Archer likes trying out new things. Keep him on his toes by surprising him with a sensual massage or a quickie in the club bathroom. If that’s too much for you try a lap dance at home. If you’re scared of upsetting him by going overboard you can always ask him what he wants. :p

Lots of trust and long patience. He needs these from you. He can be crass at times but remember that he doesn’t mean to hurt you. He can just be honest and would rather go straight to the point than beat around the bush. Also remember that it takes forever for a Sag guy to commit so if he’s with you … that means a lot.

We’ve read a lot of comments and had a lot of questions about how hard it is to communicate with a Sagittarius man. There are also questions about how to understand a male Sagittarius partner. Technically these two are different and if it’s just communicating per se, you shouldn’t have a problem doing so. Generally, men are hard to communicate with since they’re more quiet than women. You might have a bit more luck with a Sagittarius, though.

Just because the Archer don’t talk as much as any woman does, doesn’t mean he’s hard to communicate with. A male Sagittarius, mostly, has no problem talking about what they want or how they feel. In fact, they welcome this type of … activity. We’ve said it so many times before but we’ll say it again, the Archer prefers to lay his cards on the table. For them, it’s better to prevent awkward situations from happening by simply making sure him and his partner are at the same level of understanding regarding an issue.

The biggest reason why women say they find it hard to communicate with their Sagittarius male partner is because they find it hard to understand them. There is a difference between communicating and understanding. If you look at it this way, the solution, simply, is to level with them.

Try to step into their shoes. If you think you don’t understand them then do you think there maybe a chance that they can’t understand you too? It may be cliche but women do sometimes talk in riddles and some men can be very straightforward and literal. Try to do it their way and lay out everything on the table like they do. Break it down if you must and do it together. This way you know you’ll be on the same level and pace with regards to the issue at hand.

Be patient when doing so. There will be times you may lose each other when trying to analyze some things and may have to back track. Don’t lose your temper. We say things we don’t mean when were angry. Obviously, that won’t help.

Show him you trust him. You’ll be surprised how far trust can take your relationship. Don’t just tell him that, make him feel it too. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t do or say anything harsh that you might regret in the end when it turns out he was telling the truth about something.

Sagittarius men are often misinterpreted. Even if they like to talk about situations and work issues out, their actions can lead another person to think the opposite of what they say. Try to understand that they don’t do this on purpose. Sags don’t mean to hurt anyone especially the one they are with. Their happy-go-luck persona, for example, may give you the notion that they don’t take things, or even you, seriously. But remember, it’s hard to get a Sag into a commitment so being in a relationship with him means something!

People always talk about Mercury retrograde but other planets go that way too and apparently, the planet Venus is going on Retrograde by the middle of this month until late June. Although Venus is not Sagittarius’ ruling planet, it can still affect the archer’s day-to-day scene. First, what is retrograde? Retrograde motion is the movement towards the opposite direction of how things should go. Simply put, in astrology, retrograde is when harmonious things go haywire. So how does Venus going on retrograde affect a Sagittarius?

Generally, Venus represents love and beauty so expect problems surrounding that area. This is the time when everything imaginable that can test your relationships seems to be hurled your way. Make sure communication is open at all times. This is one of the key factors to a successful relationship. If you sense something troubling your partner, ask them right away what the problem is or wait when you think it is safe to ask. Do not wait too long or ignore it. You’re the one who knows your partner best so trust your intuition. In the middle of heated arguments, try to breathe and count to ten. It does not help to shout at each other and say things in a whim. Have the sense to back down and keep in mind that keeping your cool will help you think better. This isn’t only true about romantic partnerships, relationships with friends, family members and even co-workers could also be in line. Again, communication is key. Hear them out especially if they are trying to get a message across and do not just block them because you think differently. Try to understand where the other party is coming from and you may see sense in things. They may have a point and you may only realize this if you try to clear your head and not let your emotions get in the way. Try to be logical. Be cautious during this time because even your closest relationships can be at stake.

It’s hard to please everyone and give them what they want so know how to compromise. Think of a way that will work for both of you. This will help set things back to the right rhythm. Don’t try to have everything at once. You may need to sacrifice something to be able to get in a state that you need to be in. This is not the time to make big decisions too. Things are rocky at this time and whatever final decisions you make will affect everything that comes in the future.

Other than communication, the biggest thing that will get you through this phase is patience. Venus retrograde will be over by the end of June so things should get back to normal if you don’t let hot heads lead and decide for you. There will be plenty of time to catch up and by the end of this troubling time you will just find yourselves laughing at that problem. Clear your head, keep cool and think ahead.

It is said that this Fire and Earth sign has very little to no chances of working out but a Sagittarius – Virgo lesbian relationship can always work out although, of course, it all depends on how much the two individuals want it to. A Sagittarius likes a lot of fun and parties whereas a Virgo is more practical and reserved. They may find some things in common but it’s the differences they need to work on.

The centaur, which represents Sag, is half human – half horse. No, Sag lesbians may may not be hung like horses but they are in a lot of ways as alpha as any other male there is. They have balls, so to speak. Now even though they often shun away from responsibilities they like taking over in relationships. This may pose a problem for the Virgo also likes to take over in this department. The virgin would hold their ground to get what they want if they think what they want is the right thing but luckily for the fun loving Sag, Virgos also wouldn’t mind hearing the other side’s explanation to make things work out. They would settle if it works for both of them.

People with zodiacs ruled by the element Earth can be reserved but among all Earth signs the Virgo can be the sweetest. It is the only zodiac on the wheel that is represented by a female. They can be very much in touch with their feminine side but are tough and can go through . Virgo lesbians can weather any storm once they set their minds to it. Among the two zodiacs, Virgo thinks more long term. This will help the Sag partner walk on a straight line, no pun intended. The Sag is intelligent but can be easily distracted. Virgo will set Sag’s perspective straight.

Intellectually, these two are great together. Sexually, the Virgo might want to stop being virginal and loosen up a bit. Sag can be very experimental and it wouldn’t do you harm to try some things too.

The biggest difference between these two may be found in the commitment department. The ever grounded and practical Virgo may be reserved and calculating but they won’t be scared of committing when the time is right. The Sag on the other hand, can be skeptical even if they know they are in love and that this is what they want. This could be because of other factors around them. A Virgo knows what they want and aren’t scared of trying whatever measure to get it whereas a Sag would like to take the easiest way and if they can’t may just want to go to the next prospect. Case in point, a Sagittarius-Virgo lesbian couple friend of mine broke up because the Virgo’s family couldn’t accept the relationship and although she was willing to fight for it, Sag got scared and made excuses to get away from the stressful relationship even though, through her own admission, she was still very much in love with the Virgo. Bottom line, whether the relationship will work or not depends on how much these two want to stay together.

The fact that in the real sense water can put out flame makes this couple an interesting or even an unusual one. On the front, it might seem their differences are worlds apart because of their elements but the stars have proven to give a stronger pull that can make it work out. It’s true that they’re not like other couples that will have an instant attraction like fire to air but the thing that can make them a good couple is if they can see through the differences and work their way towards a good ending by using what similarities they have. For people who wants a fairy tale affair this is something they might call settling for the good enough, but is it really just that?

Pisces ruling planet is Neptune but Jupiter also plays a big part on their sign. This makes them share a lot of similarities with the Sag. They have the same goals in life although the approach may be different. Jupiter is perceived to be larger than life. Its influence makes the Sag want to get more of anything they put their hands on. They’re not the type to work on a project half heartedly. For them it’s all or nothing. Pisces goals are the same as the Archer’s but not necessarily in the same scale. They are a bit more practical and grounded than the fiery sign. Sag is much more optimistic and determined whereas the fish has some things that draw them back. The good thing about this is that as a couple, they could get what they need from each other. A Sag can tell the Pisces things that they need to hear to boost their confidence; the Fish can be a good and honest critique for whatever the Archer is working on. Unlike the fire element who just takes things head-on, water governed signs are a bit too sensitive so they must keep things in check especially if Sag is just trying to help by being honest. Jupiter is also associated with philosophy. Both Sag and Pisces are intellectual so they will have a lot of things to talk about. They may or may not agree with each other’s opinion but the exchange of ideas or even the debate itself will be very much enjoyed.

Sagittarius loves figuring out puzzles and they will enjoy getting to know the somewhat mysterious Pisces. The fish may not take the trophy for being the most mysterious sign but their water level have a certain depth of their own that is quite intriguing and that is something to begin with for the Sag. They are both romantic and loving but the Sagittarius might find Pisces a bit boring (don’t tell them that bluntly) when the initial attraction wears off. The Pisces, on the other hand, may find them too harsh or sort of unattached to be with in a long term relationship. Sagittarius wants never ending excitement in their lives. They look for adventure every day and most Pisces are content with just staying home and spending time with family or friends. They are quiet and keep to themselves. Sexually they can be very compatible as a Pisces usually has some tricks up their sleeves. However, there are more pressing matters to secure.

There is going to be a lot of adjustments if this couple want to make things work out. This is the make it or break it type. There are just things they need to let go if they want to stay together. This is not a bad relationship but it’s not for those who wants to stick to what is “ideal.” Rather, this is something for people who doesn’t mind working to get their happily ever after.

The Lesbian Sagittarius is smart, sexy and vey confident. She brings life to a boring party and often has a trick or two up her sleeve. She doesn’t walk around with a chip on her shoulder and although she needs babying at times, she knows how to take charge and usually does so.

A Sagittarius – Aries lesbian relationship is one mainly built on friendship and understanding. It is also about companionship and although most relationship is based on that, these two seem to take the cake. Everything seems to fall into place inside this relationship. Both actually wants a bit of babying and they provide a healthy size of it for each other. She enjoys taking care of the Aries (and vice versa). They aren’t very physical in public (then again, most Aries aren’t), but very intimate in private. They do find ways to be intimate outside by the tone of their voices and eye contact which is something so sweet that every couple should learn from them.

Although the Aries relies on her for most decision making, they actually agree for the Aries to take charge of the finances. They are both good when it comes to handling money but there’s a tendency for the Sag to spend more too so her partner tries to keep her spending habit manageable.

Surprisingly, she can be very domesticated when paired up with her lesbian Aries lover. Most Sagittarius would leave a big chunk of the chores to their partner but not this one. She enjoys having a fair share of the work load or sometimes even more provided she gets pampered afterwards whether it be some time at the spa or just a nice cup of coffee and a foot rub from her partner.

These two are all for pampering. They both love the finer things in life and would save up for their next weekend getaway either with friends or just by themselves. No cheap vacations for them too. They love going to exotic places and having fun under the sun trying out the area’s food specialty and exploring the attractions. If they can’t get away a nice and quiet restaurant will do before they go out shopping.

In terms of trust, an Aries knows the Sag likes to flirt once in a while but understands she is the one the Sag comes home to every night that she just doesn’t mind at all. They also try to have as much good times as they can with friends together. You’ll find these two are often hosts to small intimate gatherings among common friends and most their friends are common because they embrace each other’s lifestyles and acquaintances.

The Aries on this relationship has enough patience for both of them and the Sag, in return, gives life to a would be monotonous day to day living of an Aries. In a nutshell, these two has just the right amount of what each other lacks and a lot of good things to share that their relationship is bound to work out well from beginning to end.

One of the first things to remember about Sagittarius is they do not like anything routine. They much prefer being involved in situations that allow them to change and exercise their need for knowledge. This doesn’t mean they can never settle into a routine if it becomes necessary, but it is not the type of situation they prefer. Unless they have the thrill of knowing there may be change in the future, a Sagittarius may become bored and feel trapped.

The Archer needs to be faced with new challenges and situations in order to remain content, especially when it comes to his or her careers. At the same time they are highly responsible individuals and will allow their reliable judgment capabilities to overrule their need to throw caution into the air and follow their own course of action.

You will also discover as you get to know a Sagittarius that they are also very clever individuals. This may be due in part to the fact that they are well read and highly educated. When you get into a conversation with this sign, you are likely to be talking for hours although it will only seem to be a few minutes.

Another thing to keep in mind about a Sagittarius is they love travel and a sense of freedom. This sign is not usually content to stay at home but prefers activities that will take him or her away from home. Sagittarians love to travel to new places in order to learn about the atmosphere and culture. You may even find them picking up the accent of the places where they travel and taking it with them to their next stop. This is not
something they do to disrespect the natives of those locations but rather as a means for them to enjoy life to the fullest.

When it comes to signs that are compatible with Sagittarius, you will find there are two signs that are the most compatible with Sagittarius. These two signs are compatible for both friendship and love. The first sign is Aries, and this is partly because both Aries and Sagittarius share a love of adventure. While one might think the natural leadership qualities would cause conflicts with Sagittarius, the reality is that the Archer doesn’t mind being a follower as long as the road leads somewhere and is not just a dead end.

While both sides find rules impulsive and enjoy freedom, Aries is rather impulsive and quick to anger. However, Sagittarius possesses the responsibility and sound judgment that can help keep this kind of relationship on an even level.

Leo is also a great match for Sagittarius because of Leo’s personality and his or her love of attention. The Lion is always enthusiastic and full of energy with a deep creative sense that helps make life interesting for even the activity-seeking Sagittarius. Both Sagittarius and Leos enjoy action, a trait that helps them pair very well with Sagittarians. Both Leo and Sagittarius love the sense of adventure in traveling and are enthusiastic about the arts.

Sagittarius is possibly one of the most difficult of all the astrological signs when it comes to living harmoniously. While they are certainly very loyal and devoted as both friends and lovers, they are also prone to sudden outbursts of anger and frustration. While this is not something you should take personally, it may indeed be something you have difficulty understanding and tolerating. After all, not everyone can continue a relationship of any kind with someone who has the tendency to fly off the handle, sometimes for no apparent reason. In order to maintain any kind of relationship with a Sagittarius—friend or lover—you need to be prepared for these sudden angry outbursts and understand it is during these times you are better off to just sit and be quiet or walk away until the anger subsides.

Another problem many people have when it comes to having any kind of a relationship with a Sagittarius is their tendency to place their careers above everything else. This means there may be times when you make plans to go out, and something at work comes up preventing you from going through with your plans. It may be something that appears unimportant to you, but to the Sagittarius anything that involves his or her career is more important than anything else. They are very driven individuals by nature, a trait than is very difficult for those who are not committed to their careers to the same intensity to understand and tolerate. This can cause a great deal of disappointment and even animosity when both individuals are headstrong and unwilling to compromise.

Sagittarians are also adventurous individuals who find it almost impossible to stay still. They must also be doing something, and if you tempt to confine them you will make them unhappy. They need to have freedom to do the things they enjoy doing, and if you are unable or unwilling to join them in their quests for adventure, you must allow them to pursue those adventures on their own or with another friend. While it is easy to believe these traits might make the Sagittarius an unsuitable—or unwilling—partner for marriage that is certainly not the case. However, it does mean the person who is fortunate enough to get Sagittarius to commit to marriage will also need to have a great deal of strength and endurance to handle this adventurous individual.

Because of the adventurous nature of the Sagittarius, it is essential to keep him or her interested. Remember, they do not like to feel confined or tied down even if they are in a romantic relationship or marriage. Some people may see this need for freedom as a sign of restlessness, and while that may be partly true, this does not mean that the Sagittarius is unable to achieve a lasting relationship that includes marriage and devotion to family. One of the things you want to do if you are involved with a Sagittarius either as a friend or partner is take the time to engage in some of the activities he or she enjoys. While someone who has the same adventurous nature is the perfect match for a Sagittarius, you can build a good relationship by sharing some of the activities that are important to your friend or partner. Of course, if you have a total aversion to some of those activities (for instance, you won’t go hunting because you don’t believe in killing animals for sport or you won’t skydive because you have a fear of heights), you can still get around the problem by allowing your friend or mate to engage in those activities alone or with a friend who enjoys the same activities.

In terms of family life there are two problems that are likely to create a less than harmonious situation unless the couple is willing to work together and develop a compromise. One of the first problems is their tendency to be very indulgent parents. In order to overcome this problem there is a need for the other parent in the home to be responsible for setting down the ground rules for the children. Another problem that may occur in the home of Sagittarius is their need to invest heavily into their careers. This can cause both their spouses and children to feel neglected. It often appears they are married to their careers rather than their spouses, and this can cause friction within the household if you are not careful.

You never want to attempt to change a Sagittarius in order to fit your mold. You must accept them for what they are and work diligently at compromise in order to prevent them from feeling confined or restrained in the relationship. They have the need to feed their adventurous natures and they will resent any attempt by anyone to restrain them from expressing this part of their personalities. If your Sagittarius mate thinks for a moment you are attempting to restrain him or prevent him from engaging in those activities that are part of his adventurous nature, he is likely to become very frustrated and may even look for other ways to engage in some adventure.

It’s important to remember that in spite of some of the faults Sagittarius may seem to have, you cannot find a more loyal friend or devoted spouse or partner. While they are adventurous and unable to sit still, it is difficult to find anyone who would be more on your side and willing to stay with you through thick and thin. While they are high achievers and very driven individuals, they also believe in carrying their own weight. You won’t find a Sagittarius who is willing to sit back and let someone else take care of him or her—he needs to be active and being active also means he must be actively pursuing his career and working to get ahead. His ambitions will help
him find ways to pursue his love of adventure.

You finally got your ideal mate so the question now becomes: how do you keep your Sagittarius partner? It doesn’t stop at getting the Sagittarius person you’ve been targeting. You might have seduced them or got them to date you but what’s going to keep them with you? Among all the zodiacs people born under the Sagittarius sign are the easiest to get bored. It goes the same in relationships.

Sagittarians aren’t really players; they can be the most faithful partners. But they need to be constantly on the go. There has to be a variety in everything they do and everything they have. When in a relationship, Sagittarius tries their best to make it work out. So it’s just fair to do the same thing for them. Don’t be a lazy partner. In general, if you want something work on it. It’s a two way process so you have to remember to give as much as you take.

The horoscope said Sagittarius people are happy people. They are fun, are always full of laughter and very active. Start there and figure out fun things you can do together. Take a married couple for example. After a few months of being together they stop going out regularly and the honeymoon stage ends. They either concentrate on work or stay home during their free time to watch TV together. They start to build a secure family that they forget to work on their relationship as well. The “honeymoon stage” doesn’t really need to end. It was just a term that people made up. Try to go back to how you were before when you started dating. How does that feel? You get butterflies on your stomach? You feel excited every time you go on a date? That’s how it should always feel. Don’t stop doing the activities you used to do when you were just dating if both of you still enjoy doing that. Or try something new too. A Sagittarius partner will get bored if he or she comes home and all you have to talk about are the bills you need to pay or the roof you have to get fixed or what’s up in the latest reality TV show.  Now if you said you’ve signed up both of you in that reality TV show then that would get their attention.

Pay attention to the little things. When dating it’s natural to compliment your date about the clothes they wear. About the effort they went through just so they can come up with a romantic date. Once in a relationship people forget to notice these small things. It said in a song that: “it’s those little things that mean so much” and it’s true.

It all boils down to the fact of both of you keeping your relationship as hot and as exciting as when you were first dating. The flowers, small tokens, candle light dinners, out of town trips (jus the two of you) doesn’t have to end just because you’re married and already have kids or you already feel secure about the relationship.