One of the first things you need to learn is you cannot control or dominate a Sagittarius. The Archer must always be in control of his own life and will not allow anyone else to attempt to have a hold over him. No matter how much he may love his partner, if she attempts to put him on a leash he will quickly walk away and not even think twice about looking back. It is very difficult for him to commit to a long-term relationship as it is, so anyone who attempts to control him will be left standing in the cold.

It is also important to allow the Sagittarius to explore his mind and those things that surround him. He is a very intelligent human being and has a deep need for not just adventure but for finding answers to everything that surrounds him. If you are not the adventurous type, you will have a very difficult time meeting the needs of your Sagittarius mate. On the other hand if you are willing to join him in the things he enjoys even if you don’t really enjoy it, you will find he greatly appreciates you and your company. Instead of refusing to join in those activities he enjoys, swallow your pride and join in—at least some of the time.

One thing the Sagittarius doesn’t like is people who are boring. Because their minds are so active they must always be doing things that provide challenges. You might make them very happy if you give them a gift of a large crossword puzzle or engage in a game that challenges them to think such as some type of trivia game. If you travel with them to a deserted island, they will still want to find out everything about their surroundings; they will not be content with just those things that are in their immediate view. They always need to know what, how and why for everything in life.
The Sagittarius is also a very upbeat personality and likes the people around him to be the same way. If you are sad being around a Sagittarius will quickly change your mood, and that is just the way he likes it. You also must accept him for what he is—never try to change the Archer into something other than what he is or you will displease him immensely.

For the most part Sagittarians do not like to be died down domestically but that doesn’t mean you will never find one you can marry or even with whom you can form a permanent relationship. The key is to not make them feel tied down and allow them the freedom to pursue those things they enjoy. If you happen to enjoy the same things you will find yourself spending more time as a couple. Sagittarians are adventurous and will not be content to stay home and sit in front of the television nor are they likely to enjoy something as simple as just going shopping. You have to allow them the freedom to do those things they enjoy doing—hunting, fishing, hiking and sports are several areas in which they excel.

Because of their adventurous nature you have to either participate with them or allow them the freedom to go alone without you. This takes a great deal of skill and even self-control because failing to give in to their adventurous nature can mean the end of your relationship. Learn to be compromising or develop a love for the things the Sagittarius enjoys and you will find your relationship blossoming. They are very loyal and faithful to those they love, so you do not need to be concerned that allowing them freedom will create the need for additional male/female interaction. The choices you make will determine the longevity with a male or female Sagittarian.

Should you learn to participate in the activities your partner enjoys just to keep peace in the family? It would be in your best interest to learn to enjoy some of the activities your Sagittarian does if you expect to spend any time together. For instance, you are more likely to vacation in places where there are a great deal of activities rather than renting a condo at the beach and hanging out at the pool for the duration. That doesn’t mean a Sagittarian doesn’t enjoy swimming as an activity, but he or she will not be content to lie on the side of the pool and sunbathe. They may also enjoy sports such as horseback riding, skiing, bicycling and other strenuous activities.

If you have a successful marriage with a Sagittarian he or she will be committed and devoted but may also tend to drive hard into his career. Even women who lack a career can become overzealous to the point of lacking ability to be affectionate and perhaps earn the title of frigid. It can be very difficult for anyone to live with another Sagittarius, and almost impossible for two Sagittarians to form a successful relationship. It’s important to understand the importance of understanding your Sagittarian partner in order to make the relationship work. They are highly prone to anger and you have to learn to expect and accept this phase of their personality. Work with them rather than against them while at the same time accepting the deep love they have to give to the right person.

Living with a Sagittarius is probably one of the most difficult things you will have to face. With their strong personality and hard driven career goals, you can expect to assume the majority of the work involved in raising the family. A Sagittarius often puts his career above his family in his or her struggle to succeed, and if you attempt to interfere with these goals and efforts you will lose the sense of peace and tranquility that exists in your home. There are many sacrifices you will expect to make in order to assure the longevity of the relationship or marriage, and you must be willing to make those sacrifices.

The adventurous nature of a Sagittarian will prevent him or her from being content to sit home and relax. He always needs something to do and will likely become involved in a great many sports activities. Your vacation time will be spent in spots where there are many activities: swimming, hiking, skiing, golf, horseback riding and the like. You will not interest a Sagittarian in sitting along the beach and soaking up the sun though swimming, surfing or waterskiing may be quite appealing.

What if you are not an active person by nature? Your relationship will go downhill quickly unless you learn to participate in some activities with your active partner. You cannot always spend time doing only those things that appeal to you without putting a strain on the relationship. There is a great deal of compromise involved in holding any relationship together, and this is especially true when you have two personalities so different. It can become any more difficult if there are incompatible signs involved—that leaves more obstacles a couple must overcome in order to make the relationship work.

Since the Sagittarius has such a strong and well-defined personality, you must be willing to accept him or her at face value. When you are dating do not expect things will change if you marry—this is untrue in any situation even with signs that are fully compatible. Be willing to assume the responsibility in any areas in which the Sagittarius fails or neglects to do his or her part. Remember although there will be deep love and commitment to spouse and children there is also the Type A personality that will also “marry” the career and spend time away from spouse and children to do so.

Maintaining peace and tranquility living with a Sagittarius means being willing to overlook the things he or she neglects and being content with the time you do spend together. Do not attempt to change your Sagittarian and allow him or her to pursue those activities that make him happy while participating in as many as you possibly can as a compromise. If you compromise instead of trying to force your partner to do so you will find life will run much smoother and both of you will be happier and more at ease with each other.

Sagittarians aren’t really players; they can be the most faithful partners. But they need to be constantly on the go. There has to be a variety in everything they do and everything they have. When in a relationship, Sagittarius tries their best to make it work out. So it’s just fair to do the same thing for them. Don’t be a lazy partner. In general, if you want something work on it. It’s a two way process so you have to remember to give as much as you take.

The horoscope said Sagittarius people are happy people. They are fun, are always full of laughter and very active. Start there and figure out fun things you can do together. Take a married couple for example. After a few months of being together they stop going out regularly and the honeymoon stage ends. They either concentrate on work or stay home during their free time to watch TV together. They start to build a secure family that they forget to work on their relationship as well. The “honeymoon stage” doesn’t really need to end. It was just a term that people made up. Try to go back to how you were before when you started dating. How does that feel? You get butterflies on your stomach? You feel excited every time you go on a date? That’s how it should always feel. Don’t stop doing the activities you used to do when you were just dating if both of you still enjoy doing that. Or try something new too. A Sagittarius partner will get bored if he or she comes home and all you have to talk about are the bills you need to pay or the roof you have to get fixed or what’s up in the latest reality TV show.  Now if you said you’ve signed up both of you in that reality TV show then that would get their attention.

Pay attention to the little things. When dating it’s natural to compliment your date about the clothes they wear. About the effort they went through just so they can come up with a romantic date. Once in a relationship people forget to notice these small things. It said in a song that: “it’s those little things that mean so much” and it’s true.

It all boils down to the fact of both of you keeping your relationship as hot and as exciting as when you were first dating. The flowers, small tokens, candle light dinners, out of town trips (jus the two of you) doesn’t have to end just because you’re married and already have kids or you already feel secure about the relationship.