Sometimes a Sagittarius seem to possess a multi-layered personality that it’s hard to know how to act around them. He may have that come what may attitude but he can also be an intense and dedicated lover. He’ll constantly spring up with new ideas and activities that would keep you on your toes. He’ll surprise you with home cooked meals and small tokens for gifts when he feels like it. If you have a Sagittarius partner you will know that they are a romantic through and through. You will also know that they can sometimes do something different from what they say. Not that they’re fickle, they just act on impulse most of the times and rely on their instincts. So even if they planned to do something with you over the weekend it could still change depending on his mood.

This varying persona creates a confusion as to what the Archer expects or needs from a partner. But observing his different activities and moods will also give you an insight on how to interact with him and give him what he needs. It’s actually that simple.

For starters, you have to have a sharp brain. You’ll notice how he takes a liking to philosophical and intellectual movies, books, or any other type of media. He likes solving puzzles and won’t stop until he figures something out. In this case you should also stimulate your brain and smarten up to make sure you keep up with him. He’d like someone of the same intellectual capacity. He’d get bored if he can’t talk to you about the thing that interests him.

Sports and socializing. Odd combination? Not really. He’s a very physical guy with a lot of energy to spend so make sure he spends it the way that would benefit you both. It’s never too late to learn a sport. If he offers to take you with him or teach you how his sport go for it. If he doesn’t then ask if you can. If you’re not a sporty type of person just try. Who knows, you might actually like it. If you decide you don’t both of you can try a new sport. Something both of you may like. And if all else fails, you can always go to his game with his friends and cheer for him. You can meet his friends’ girlfriends too. As for socializing, this in itself is energy consuming. But there are also activities that will help you socialize. Dancing for example. Go out and party with him. It could be with your friends and his friends or just the two of you hitting the club making mew friends. He’d like that. He likes to meet new people so encouraging him to do so by going with him would make him love you more.

Sex. Not just lots of it. A variety of it. You may say he’s a guy and it’s a given. Although this is true, keep in mind that the Archer likes trying out new things. Keep him on his toes by surprising him with a sensual massage or a quickie in the club bathroom. If that’s too much for you try a lap dance at home. If you’re scared of upsetting him by going overboard you can always ask him what he wants. :p

Lots of trust and long patience. He needs these from you. He can be crass at times but remember that he doesn’t mean to hurt you. He can just be honest and would rather go straight to the point than beat around the bush. Also remember that it takes forever for a Sag guy to commit so if he’s with you … that means a lot.

We’ve read a lot of comments and had a lot of questions about how hard it is to communicate with a Sagittarius man. There are also questions about how to understand a male Sagittarius partner. Technically these two are different and if it’s just communicating per se, you shouldn’t have a problem doing so. Generally, men are hard to communicate with since they’re more quiet than women. You might have a bit more luck with a Sagittarius, though.

Just because the Archer don’t talk as much as any woman does, doesn’t mean he’s hard to communicate with. A male Sagittarius, mostly, has no problem talking about what they want or how they feel. In fact, they welcome this type of … activity. We’ve said it so many times before but we’ll say it again, the Archer prefers to lay his cards on the table. For them, it’s better to prevent awkward situations from happening by simply making sure him and his partner are at the same level of understanding regarding an issue.

The biggest reason why women say they find it hard to communicate with their Sagittarius male partner is because they find it hard to understand them. There is a difference between communicating and understanding. If you look at it this way, the solution, simply, is to level with them.

Try to step into their shoes. If you think you don’t understand them then do you think there maybe a chance that they can’t understand you too? It may be cliche but women do sometimes talk in riddles and some men can be very straightforward and literal. Try to do it their way and lay out everything on the table like they do. Break it down if you must and do it together. This way you know you’ll be on the same level and pace with regards to the issue at hand.

Be patient when doing so. There will be times you may lose each other when trying to analyze some things and may have to back track. Don’t lose your temper. We say things we don’t mean when were angry. Obviously, that won’t help.

Show him you trust him. You’ll be surprised how far trust can take your relationship. Don’t just tell him that, make him feel it too. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t do or say anything harsh that you might regret in the end when it turns out he was telling the truth about something.

Sagittarius men are often misinterpreted. Even if they like to talk about situations and work issues out, their actions can lead another person to think the opposite of what they say. Try to understand that they don’t do this on purpose. Sags don’t mean to hurt anyone especially the one they are with. Their happy-go-luck persona, for example, may give you the notion that they don’t take things, or even you, seriously. But remember, it’s hard to get a Sag into a commitment so being in a relationship with him means something!

A Sagittarius woman when in love is very straightforward to the point of wearing their hearts on their sleeves. They are passionate lovers and very sincere to their partner. The happy-go-lucky persona won’t disappear completely but they get serious when they feel it’s the right time and they know they’re with the right person. Whatever guy the elusive Sagittarius lady falls for is in for a surprise. You may be showered with candle lit dinners with home-cooked gourmet food, little presents when you wake up in the morning or just a naked woman in your tub with a glass of wine and two tall stemmed glasses in her hands when you get home from a long day at work.

Now, all of these doesn’t come for free. Not that a Sagittarius girl can be bought. She’s one of the most independent souls in the world but as giving as she can be to the love of her life, she has her needs too. Now you, lucky guy that you are, wouldn’t want to ignore these and risk losing the treasure you’ve found. So what does a Sagittarius woman need from her partner?

A whole lotta lovin’. If she can give you that then she deserves to get it back. You might want to upgrade on sweetness because she’d want to have someone to be sweet with. She’d like the phone calls in the middle of the day to ask if she’s had lunch or the occasional showing-up-in-her-office-to-ask-her-to-lunch; flowers would give it a nice touch too. When we say lovin’ it also means you have to upgrade on your lovemaking skills. You’re going to have to think of ways to keep her on her toes and make her want you more. :p

Other activities. There’s no other way to put it. If you think you can use up all her energy in bed, you have a lot to learn about this girl’s stamina. Take her out for a hike, ride your bike, go swim or just do any outdoor sports with her. You get to hit about a dozen birds with one stone on this one like spend time with her, get to know her more, have fun with her or even get some physical activity for yourself as well.

Friendship. A Sagittarius woman likes to share. As much as she loves getting shagged at the end of the day, she’d also want someone to talk to about how her day went at the office, how someone cut her up the line at Starbucks or how her mother always tells her it’s about time to have kids when she doesn’t want one yet.

Me Time. It’s been said over and over that a Sagittarius has a tendency to be “claustrophobic” in a relationship. Don’t smother her with text messages asking where she is or who she’s with. Let her go out with her friends and other people you don’t hang out with. A Sagittarius woman values her independence and likes the idea of living a life outside of the relationship also keeps her on her toes. Trust her to have fun and never forget herself. And you of course.

In some ways, you can say these are things you can do to “keep” your Sagittarius partner but that just sounds selfish. The only way you can get things wrong is thinking that any of these is such a task. If you look at it closely, they’re really just normal stuff any other relationship needs so what have you got to lose?

Wherever there’s a crowd, expect a Sagittarius (or a bunch of ’em) hanging around. Sagittarius people like being in the loop and up to date with whatever’s happening, yes, but most of the times, they ARE what’s happening. People actually like being with those ruled by the sign of the archer. They can have more friends imaginable (sometimes even more than they can handle). It’s normal to get envious of so much attention so some may want to take a leaf off the Sagittarius’ book and figure out how they’re so popular. So how do Sagittarius attract people?

Obviously, by attract we don’t just mean a date or towards the opposite sex. Now, if you ask a Sag they probably can’t give you a straight answer. Most of the times they’re not even aware they’re being such crowd magnets. But that may be one of the biggest reasons they’re so successful at doing it.

If anything, a Sagittarius is always true to himself. They never put on a mask for one crowd, a different one for the other and then take them all off when they get home. They’re generally comfortable in their own skins that even though they aim to please anyone, they still don’t have to put on a show. Of course they expect no less from the people around them. They’re never afraid to say what they think and feel and they like to know how others do. It’s easier to gain other’s trust when you are trustworthy too.  People, in general, tend to admire those that are truthful and like to stick to them.

The archers also have a very positive, the-glass-is-half-full attitude and it’s human nature for positive to attract positive. Other positive people wouldn’t want the negative ones to rain on their parade. Not that they never bother about problems and downsides. They may have the happy-go-lucky brand but Sagittarius works through any obstacle they come across. They can be hard workers especially when working towards something they really want.

Now, with positive thinking also comes open mindedness. There are things and situations that will come your way that aren’t black or white but in various shades of grey. If you’re a Sag (or you want to be like a Sag) you’ll know that you need to analyze these things and accept it the way it is or work a way to make it acceptable by your standards. Sagittarius people can be firm in what they believe in but they are also acquainted with the word compromise. You can’t get everything you want in life is a popular phrase and that popular phrase is true. It doesn’t mean, however, that you’re going to stop there. There are other things in life that, you may not realize now, are way better than what you have dreamed of.

It may all sound so simple and easy to say (and it is) but some of these things are actually hard to do. It’s not always easy to attract people you can connect with but don’t let that stop you and bring you down. A real Sagittarius won’t.

Somewhere in this blog we have mentioned that one should not judge a Sag too quickly. If you’re thinking it is easier said than done then you are right. Or at least highly understandable. It is very easy to judge a person most especially someone born under the Sagittarius zodiac. They have qualities that gets misinterpreted more than any other signs of the zodiac wheel.

The Rule Breaker. Sagittarius ruled people likes taking chances and pushing boundaries. They like to know their limitations so they can find out how far they can go. If you look at it in their way, pushing boundaries just means perseverance. A Sag would go a long way to make sure they finish something they started. They are not afraid to try unusual procedures if it would bring good results. This leads for them to be misinterpreted as rule breakers. They would try anything out if it means it’s something new and most especially, out of the usual. For them, if it’s fun and brings new experiences then it can’t be that bad. It just depends on who’s looking at it.

The Heart Breaker. A Sagittarius love being around people but most of all they like getting to know people. They would figure you out like a puzzle to know what tickles you pink. Sags are somewhat people pleasers in that regard. They are very accommodating and they would give you what you want and need without realizing they are leading you on. The Jupiter ruled zodiac are also hopeless romantics.They are forever out there looking for “the one” and they aren’t afraid of getting hurt or taking chances because deep inside, they know that “someone” is out there waiting for them and they wont miss an opportunity if it means they will finally meet. If they feel like the person they are dating is not the one they will be honest and say so so they can move on to find their soul mate. For them, the truth should be said even if it hurts. On another note, Sags are huge flirts too. Sometimes they don’t realize it but they are. They are very playful and sociable and they would have a conversation with anyone who is up to it. Especially with the opposite sex. :p

The Know-It-All. The philosophical nature of Sags can also lead them to be misinterpreted. Sagittarius people are inquisitive and forever looking for answers. They don’t stop when you give them a good-enough answer. It has to be the absolute truth. Although they are fun-loving people they can rant too like when they don’t understand why people do things a certain way, for example. This is mostly why they are pegged as a bunch of know-it-all. They will talk about things that they don’t understand and suggest something that, for them, makes more sense.

The Sagittarius people have strong personalities so they can come off as extreme (and we don’t mean it in a good way). The best thing to do is look inside them and know what their intentions are. Most of the time, they think and act in ways they think will benefit not just them but the people around them too.

How do someone ask for forgiveness from a Sagittarius? First off, if you’re asking forgiveness from a Sag, you must have done something REALLY bad. Sagittarius are fun loving people and are somewhat nonchalant that they let most things slide. This is not to say they do not care or worse, push overs. It’s just that these philosophical people understands at a young age that keeping a grudge only does more harm to them than anyone else. They do not hold on to the bad memories and events. They let these experiences hone them as a person and put it in good use. If there is one thing a Sagittarius hates more than anything, it is resentment and hate itself. So you might not have to worry about pissing them off because of trivial things. Now, if you really must ask for a Sagittarius’ forgiveness, here are a few things to consider.

Make sure it’s from the bottom of your heart. Sounds cheesy, yes, but a heartfelt apology is always appreciated. Look them in the eye when you ask for their forgiveness. If you feel the need to explain yourself then do so. Sagittarius people are very good listeners and they will not only humor you but even put themselves in your shoes. They are somewhat righteous in a way that they ask themselves “how would I feel if I were in his position” all the time. Just say your piece and let it all out but be careful about the words that you use as well especially if the two of you disagreed about something. Sagittarius can be very passionate about their beliefs so explain yourself in a way that would make him feel that you understand where he is coming from. If they feel you are sincere about saying sorry and making amends, they will forgive you from the bottom of their hearts too.

Generally, people under the Sagittarius zodiac are very forgiving. Extraordinarily forgiving, actually. And it’s not just about the small things. Sagittarius people wear their hearts on their sleeves and most of the time you can tell how they really feel about the situation. These party goers are also hopeless romantics. If you are lovers and had a disagreement, don’t let pride get in the way.Don’t be afraid of getting rejected or being asked to walk away. A Sagittarius prefers to know both sides of the story and he will not mind hearing you out. In fact, he prefers this because any other option makes him feel left in the dark.

If you have wronged a Sagittarius person, he may have forgiven you before you even ask for it. If it’s not a major issue, a Sagittarius will probably initiate the conversation too. He will try to sort things out and figure out where things went wrong and he would prefer that the two of you work it out together. It is very hard to make a Sagittarius person angry but keep in mind not to take advantage of them. Don’t wait for that time when you have to run after them just to say those two words.

People born under the Sagittarius zodiac are seen as happy-go-lucky, nonchalant and, a lot of times (although they usually don’t mean to be), callous. But for every one of these adjectives that people throw at the Archer, there is a positive trait that weighs ten times more that can make the seemingly negative traits fade. Here are some of them.

1) Independent. Being independent can mean a lot of things and the Archer takes it all. Whether financially, intellectually or emotionally, a Sagittarius prides himself to be independent. They are very good at handling their finances so they always have something to take out of their pockets in case of emergencies. It may not be easy for them to pick a career that bring them success because a Sag needs something that doesn’t restrict him to a certain type of conduct but they do their best no matter what is thrown their way and at the same time they don’t stop looking for that job that would give them the fulfillment they need. Emotionally, they are usually in control. No, they’re not cold and calculating. As a matter of fact, the Sag can be the most affectionate sign there is if they want to be or if they think you deserve that affection. They are emotionally stable and does not resort to drama to get what they want. Sags love having fun too much to give in to drama. They’d rather take their time to think of a way to solve things in a quiet way. They try to solve their own problems too and try not to drag everyone in it.

2) Optimistic. This is a part of their happy-go-lucky character as well as their intellectual part. Whereas a pessimistic person will see so many road blocks, the Sag can think of a hundred and one ways of how and why things can work out. Unlike others who just say, things are going to be okay, the Archer actually thinks of ways to get to the goal.

3) Confident. Not the overly confident type, the Sag just have enough confidence that lets them slide through the day with ease. No matter what obstacle they face, they are confident they can get through it with a bit of logical thinking. Their confidence is also part of their charisma and appeal. They don’t believe you have to be gorgeous (although of course that helps, A LOT) to gain attention. You just have to think you’re gorgeous and that’s how Sags are. It may sound conceited as you read this but probably the thing that doesn’t make them so overbearing is the fact that they know how to use all their good qualities together.

4) Generous. The Archer is generous in more ways than one. They will offer support to friends and loved ones whether it be monetary or a sound advice. They will share their roof if they need to not in exchange of anything but just because they hate to see anyone they care for in a pickle.

All of these in one person is a great deal to top so don’t be too quick to judge the Sag. 😉

People always talk about Mercury retrograde but other planets go that way too and apparently, the planet Venus is going on Retrograde by the middle of this month until late June. Although Venus is not Sagittarius’ ruling planet, it can still affect the archer’s day-to-day scene. First, what is retrograde? Retrograde motion is the movement towards the opposite direction of how things should go. Simply put, in astrology, retrograde is when harmonious things go haywire. So how does Venus going on retrograde affect a Sagittarius?

Generally, Venus represents love and beauty so expect problems surrounding that area. This is the time when everything imaginable that can test your relationships seems to be hurled your way. Make sure communication is open at all times. This is one of the key factors to a successful relationship. If you sense something troubling your partner, ask them right away what the problem is or wait when you think it is safe to ask. Do not wait too long or ignore it. You’re the one who knows your partner best so trust your intuition. In the middle of heated arguments, try to breathe and count to ten. It does not help to shout at each other and say things in a whim. Have the sense to back down and keep in mind that keeping your cool will help you think better. This isn’t only true about romantic partnerships, relationships with friends, family members and even co-workers could also be in line. Again, communication is key. Hear them out especially if they are trying to get a message across and do not just block them because you think differently. Try to understand where the other party is coming from and you may see sense in things. They may have a point and you may only realize this if you try to clear your head and not let your emotions get in the way. Try to be logical. Be cautious during this time because even your closest relationships can be at stake.

It’s hard to please everyone and give them what they want so know how to compromise. Think of a way that will work for both of you. This will help set things back to the right rhythm. Don’t try to have everything at once. You may need to sacrifice something to be able to get in a state that you need to be in. This is not the time to make big decisions too. Things are rocky at this time and whatever final decisions you make will affect everything that comes in the future.

Other than communication, the biggest thing that will get you through this phase is patience. Venus retrograde will be over by the end of June so things should get back to normal if you don’t let hot heads lead and decide for you. There will be plenty of time to catch up and by the end of this troubling time you will just find yourselves laughing at that problem. Clear your head, keep cool and think ahead.

Much is written about mothers and Sagittarius mothers but what about the fathers? I have a Sag friend who said he wanted to have kids one day just so he can pass on his legacy and by legacy he didn’t mean decades of hard earned possessions and wisdom. He simply meant his collection of baseball cards (and yes he was serious). He was 38 years old then and a HUGE baseball fan (I’m sure you can tell). Another Sag friend who was 35 at the time said he needed to have a baby before his sister does cause that’s going to be the first grandchild so his parents will be in favor of his kid so they can take over and babysit while he goes out. Yes, I had to roll my eyes on that. Now given these cases, and since Sagittarius take time to mature and men (in general) take time to do so as well, does that mean they make bad dads? Not necessarily.

We’ll take their cases for example. Both of them are parents now and showed everyone they’re good at it. The baseball fan, of course, did as he said. He may sound very much like a kid at the age of 38 but this proved to be a good thing. He spends a lot of his time playing with his son. A Sag dad is the type of dad who wants to spend as much time as he can with his children. They know how to show their kids a good time and they will be loved for that. They know when to take things seriously too and although they aren’t the disciplinarian type, they know how to instill good values to their kids by spending time with them and showing them how the world works. Sags believe that quality time together with their kids will mean a lot because that is what they want from their parents too.

On the case of the 35 year old guy, he did get his wish of having the baby before his sister but lo and behold, he couldn’t even keep his hands off his little bundle of joy to have his parents fuss over her. He was so overwhelmed and fell in love at the first sight that he’s the one who would stay up all night to change her diapers and make her a bottle of milk. Now, seeing him like that makes one think he’s the spoiler not the grandparents. But a Sagittarius’ sense of independence and intellect gives him the sense to raise the girl properly, not giving in too much to her demands and making her discover things on her own. Sags grew up like that. They liked exploring and trying to figure out things without others help. They may be impatient at times but take joy and pride at learning new things on their own.

They may seem a lot of work, these Sagittarius men. That’s because they are. But that doesn’t mean they stay the way they are forever. It takes different circumstances to see how mature (or not) they can act out. As carefree as they are because that’s how most people see them, they do wisen up once another person’s future is at stake.

If you’re a Sag (or a friend / family / lover of a Sag – you may relay this to them), here are some things you might want to consider for a New Year’s resolution. You don’t want to change anything about yourself, you say? Now, the NY’s resolution doesn’t have to be things that you should do to change what you already are. It could be something you’ve been planning to try for the longest time or something you didn’t realize you should do to improve your life or the lives of others. These are suggestions and, of course, are written for your consideration :).

1) Cut Back on Party Juice. It’s obvious, right? We all know Sags looooove to party. That’s good because a happy life leads to a long life. But being happy doesn’t always have to involve booze and cigarettes and staying up late every weekend. Try to cut back on alcohol. Just take a good amount of it to give you the right buzz to make crazy dance moves on the floor. Or consider something more tame. Sometimes, a quiet dinner out with a select number of friends have its own rewards.

2) Live a Healthy Lifestyle. Don’t tell me you didn’t see that coming. This automatically follows the first resolution. Instead of staying out late every weekend why not sleep early on a Saturday night so you could get up early the next day and jog or take a walk at the park with your dog. Instead of steak, grill some fish and pair it up with some greens. Instead of vodka, have a glass or two of red wine. You know the drill.

3) Travel Abroad. This will make you hit a few birds with one stone. Planning to go out of the country involves the need to save up for it. You’ll learn to appreciate the value of money if you’re trying to save up for something big and a trip out of the country with a different money value will help loads! Also, they say Sags are a happy-go-lucky bunch that needs a lot of maturing. Traveling is one way to learn how to act like an adult. You will see and experience new cultures and can compare it with yours. Meet new people and try to live their lives. See how they go by their daily grind in a country that lacks food and medicine and appreciate how lucky you are for having what you have. By the time you come back you may be looking for charities and causes that you can participate in left and right.

4) Be sensitive. Sags aren’t known to be the most sensitive signs in the zodiac wheel. You don’t have to cry at the drop of a hat but try to read between lines or, at the least, make sure you put a filter between your brain and your mouth.  Just because you thought one thing is funny doesn’t mean everyone else will find it funny too. You may have a different sense of humor than theirs and if your humor is dry unlike the person you’re talking to then you might be in for a little trouble. :p

5) Have a Happy New Year! Push away bad vibes and try to attract only the good ones. If you can’t help it, use the bad things to make yourself a better person.