Do’s and Don’t When Sagittarius Doesn’t Call or Text Back

Sagittarius is a love ’em and leave ’em sign, but this isn’t malicious. Sagittarius is romantic, in a sense, an idealistic one in which they may fall in love in the moment and feel that it’s real, and then fall out of love shortly after, and feel that that’s real, too. Sagittarius can create and be swept up in a romantic and erotic fervor that begins as quickly as it ends. It doesn’t want to commit. Yes, it eventually wants to meet that special someone, somehow, somewhere, but it takes a while.

Sagittarius is oblivious. It doesn’t know when someone likes them first or likes them back unless they’re explicitly told. Archers aren’t very good with maintaining lines of communication. They will write, call, or text back, but they may not reach out to you first.

If you want to reopen the lines of communication with Sagittarius, here are things you should and shouldn’t do:


Text or call to see how they’re doing. You may have been abandoned, but it’s also possible that something else came up and Sagittarius isn’t contacting you because they’re pressed for time and assume that if you haven’t reached out, the relationship may not be that important to you.

Of course, Sagittarius is gregarious, but Archers of both genders prefer to handle their problems alone and not reach out. They may have had trouble with being taken seriously by others when they reached out in the past. Thus, they may not be contacting you because they’re dealing with some hard stuff right now and could use a friend, but isn’t reaching for one.

Move on with your life. Sagittarius doesn’t need constant contact with someone to maintain feelings of love or friendship. They can meet an old childhood friend they haven’t spoken to in 20 years and pick right up as if nothing happened. A few days or weeks without contact doesn’t mean anything to Sagittarius. They may very well still feel the same and expect you to feel the same, too.

With that being said, if Sagittarius isn’t all over you trying to get your attention, then it’s safe to assume that you’re free to do as you please. You can date other people. You can go out with your friends. You can choose to be unavailable when and if they eventually call. However, keep in mind that Sagittarius doesn’t quite do or get passive-aggressive behavior that includes the silent treatment, so don’t expect them to get the hint right away.

Be positive when you see them again and don’t take it personally. There’s a good chance that the reason Sagittarius has been away has nothing to do with you. However, Sagittarius doesn’t need to be reminded of you to know that they like you. If they’re friendly as if nothing has happened, then understand that they actually don’t think anything happened, and now is as good a time as any to catch up and tell each other about the adventures you both had after you last spoke.


Have a meltdown and/or accuse them of abandoning you. One of the easiest ways to lose a Sagittarius is to become possessive. Whether it’s romance or friendship, Sagittarius must be free to come and free to go if you want them to stay. Trying to make them feel obligated for your wellbeing makes it less likely that they’ll contact you in the future. They may even shrug and block your number so you can’t contact them anymore.

The Archer isn’t really a fighter. They may discuss it, but they won’t argue with you about where they’ve been for the last two weeks, especially in a new relationship. Hell – did they demand to know where you’ve been all this time, have they?

Stalk them or send other people to intervene on your behalf. Again, the Archer doesn’t appreciate your efforts to pin them down, and you putting them in a position to explain themselves to you immediately, or to a third party will pretty much guarantee that you’ll be one of the few people who actually ends up on a Sagittarius’s shit list.

While Sagittarius isn’t an intensely private person, being compelled to treat someone they don’t even know as an authority is an affront to their sense of freedom. If they’re not legally obligated to send a smiley back when you text, then they shouldn’t have to explain that to someone else at a time inconvenient for them.

Create drama to induce them to call or text you. Sure, if they find out that your mom just went to the hospital, they will contact you to see if you’re okay. If they find out that your mom is at home and she just has a cold, you’ve basically lost Sagittarius. They want to trust you. They’re naturally trusting people. However, if you break that trust, then you’ll never get it again.

Also, on that note: don’t try to make them jealous. Sagittarius doesn’t really get jealous. If you get upset and send a picture of yourself with a different man or woman to get a rise out of them, Sagittarius is not going to call your bluff. They’ll just think that you’ve moved on, and there is no need to keep your phone number in their phone anymore. Or, they’ll think you’re petty, and they’ll pat themselves on the back for managing to avoid someone as unhinged as you.