While all of the astrological signs have specific traits that set them apart from others, Sagittarius has some that can be rather difficult to handle for many people. This is especially true when the Sagittarius links up with either another Sagittarius or another sign that has similar personality traits to some of those that encompass Sagittarius. Even though another person may not possess all of the same traits as the Sagittarius, there may be conflicts handling actions that occur with those traits that are similar. It’s important to understand what Sagittarius expects in a mate before you allow yourself to become actively involved with this sign.
One of the first things Sagittarius expects from a mate is acceptance for what they are. Do not attempt to make Sagittarius in someone else or attempt to change them in any way. Instead of trying to execute change, you must be willing to compromise with them in order to prevent them from feeling confined. The Sagittarius mate will quickly become frustrated if he feels he is being constrained in the relationship and may even begin to entertain thoughts about finding other ways to express his naturally adventurous nature. You will immensely please your Sagittarius mate if you make the effort to engage in some of the adventures he enjoys. Certainly you are not going to enjoy everything, and he will not expect you to follow him everywhere he goes, but if you can compromise with him on some things and allow him to go about alone on others you will be well on the way to making him a much happier person to be around.
If you want to make your Sagittarius happy it is important for you to develop an understanding of how they work and what they expect from you in return. It’s important to understand the way the mind of a Sagittarius works. A couple of things you also need to know is their minds have a wide range of emotions inside that can cause the Sagittarius to fly on the handle with no warning whatsoever. You must learn not to take these outbursts personally because if you have done nothing to provoke them, you can be sure it is nothing you did. The problem is the Sagittarius has such an active mind that he may actually be thinking of something in his past that he feels he
could have done a different way and will actually become angry at himself for not knowing that at the time.
The Sagittarius is also a big talker and can keep talking for hours without even thinking about asking for your input. You want to avoid allowing them to continue in this manner no matter how interested you may be in what they are saying. Not only is the Sagittarius a wonderful conversationalist, they are also extremely brilliant and intellectual, but if you allow them to monopolize the conversation they may see you as witless and unintelligent both traits they would fine extremely boring. Sagittarius needs a mate that is on their level intellectually and with whom they can hold an intelligent conversation. They want your input and need to know that you have
something interesting and intelligent to add to the conversation.
and be idle. It’s important for them to be doing something, and if you want to be able to spend time with your mate, you must learn to accommodate that need. Even if you take a trip into the mountains and there is no one else around, it will be necessary for the Sagittarius to find something to do whether it means finding a way to make the cabin cozier or researching the surroundings to find out how others may have lived—he may even be tempted to research and think about what may have caused someone to build the cabin in which you are staying and why they chose the specific indoor and outdoor design.
Sagittarians are very curious individuals and have a need to find answers to every single question that enters their minds. When you buy a gift for your Sagittarius mate, stay away from simple every day gifts such as jewelry, clothing or music CDs. Instead choose gifts that will allow them to challenge their minds. A giant crossword puzzle or a book on a topic that interests them will be one they appreciate. Sagittarians need to stimulate their minds at all times, so you need to use that to your advantage when you choose gifts for a Sagittarius.
When you are with a Sagittarius mate you do not want to make any attempt to keep him on a leash. Sagittarians are not clingy individuals and do not find it necessary to depend on other people. Because they are so fiercely independent they will not tolerate restrictions very well at all. The Sagittarius must always be in control, so you must avoid attempting to dominate them. This action will cause them to walk away from the relationship—even if you are married. They will not hesitate to tell other people about the kind of person you were which could have a negative affect on any future relationships you might attempt to develop.
The most important thing to remember is Sagittarians expect you to accept them just the way you are without making any attempts to change them. Any attempt to try to change a Sagittarius will cause you to lose sight of not only your mate but also the relationship. These quick thinkers are always quite upbeat and happy and prefer to be around others who are the same way. Unfortunately they also can come across as rather conceited though not in an outward way. They tend to subconsciously brag to themselves about how great they are, thoughts that can sometimes project themselves into actions. You also must understand their need to dig deeper to find logical reasons for various thoughts that come into their minds while at the same time understand their obsessive quest for knowledge and love of life in general.
I sent my Sagitarrius male friend a Sympathy Card in March when his father passed, and since then, he has pulled away completely, and I don’t understand why. We were just beginning to explore getting to know each other better, etc.
Also, I have tried repeatedly to call/text him, to no avail, and he totally ignores me when we take the same RT bus route on a regular basis.
Peoples sympathy’s make me uneasy, I know if he is like me he will find himself in a situation where he does not know what to say as he never wanted you to feel sorry for him.
Send a text asking him to something for example a local jazz festival or something like that. Keep it light hearted and friendly do not mention anything about how he is etc just try say you were thinking of going and thought of him. We like to be thought of like that it shows you knew us enough.
We crave understanding like a drug and pray the next one really gets us.
If you still get no reply either strike up a conversation on the bus asking if he changed his number or if all else fails the guy is just generally a cowered and an arse.
Hope that helps
T
listen im a sagittarius and ima help explian somethin when we lose someone close we retreat from all contact with people we like wait a while hell come back
i also hope your relationship goes great you fall in love etc. im in a relationship with an aquarius let me tell ya it works great for both partners
In reply to … I sent my Sagitarrius male friend a Sympathy Card in March when his father passed, and since then, he has pulled away completely, and I don’t understand why. We were just beginning to explore getting to know each other better, etc.
Also, I have tried repeatedly to call/text him, to no avail, and he totally ignores me when we take the same RT bus route on a regular basis.
I am a saggi.. so I can give you a hint about what went wrong. I cant explain the deeper feelings of your saggi friend as it is way too complicated that you think. But better than sending him a Sympathy card. You should have met him in person and expressed gratitude with a hug. Just find the courage to talk to him again and involve him in some intellectual or knowledge full talks. Take anything or any place around and start talking about it. If he is interested, he will never ignore you. just don’t try to dominate him. All the best. And hug him if you are a woman. He will appreciate the warmth.
Uh-oh, I’m an Aquarius lady too and fell for a smashing Sagittarian. I’ve chased him a tad too hard, I fear for he too, promises to call, never does. Says he’ll ‘let me know’, n you guessed it, never does. Guess we have to love ourselves more n go for men who will chase us and make us feel special rather than the other way around
Its because we think pain is personal. Give him some time check on him from time to time and when he’s over it he’ll come around.
i am a a Sagittarius man and if someone i just met relatively recently gave me a CARD when one of my parents died, i would take it as a slap in the face. if you wanted to show your ‘sympathy’ you should’ve had the courage to show it to his face if was even real. that’s why he is ignoring you. the relationship he had with said parent bad or good is irrelevant, in my opinion.
Help! My Sag friend is going through a divorce and acting so weird. He’s usually super social, but he just closed his Facebook acct. & says he just wants to hang out with his dog-? He’s not responding to some of my emails. I don’t know what to do b/c I do care about him. I think he’s great & wish I could cheer him up! At the same time, it’s kind of rude to build a relationship and then repeatedly blow someone off for no reason (that I know of)… Time is passing by. I’m getting frustrated. I’m a sweet pisces w/ a lot of impatient Aries in my chart (i.e. this hurts my feelings & makes me impatient!)
I can’t emphasize enough how back & forth he has been with these gaps. Help! I don’t understand.
To add, I know he’s sad over his break-up, but it’s been going on for over 2 years! I just wish I could cheer him up. What can I do?
It is a little late replying but maybe I can help shine a little light for the next girl. Just from a look at current famous Sagittarians, one can see that this sign holds many complex facets that the person him/herself constantly contemplating. When anything goes wrong, the problem is usually replayed over and over consciously until a good reason emerges. We are very much in our heads sorting life and reinventing ourselves. So again, when something goes wrong
the Sagittarius will retreat inside to concentrate deeper on issue. The issue may involve finding oneself again. However, I assure you if you have the wit, you can always arouse the interest of our fiery, adventurous nature. But on a matter as serious as a broken heart, sometimes it may be best to let the Sagittarius return on his own. The last thing an Archer wants is help, second to pity. I personally can’t stand pity. Try to get them out into the fresh air, and around some trees. Show them a good night on the town or a good night
I’m a female sag and I can tell you pain and sadness are a form a weakness to us. Crying to me is for babies, and there should be some logical way to express my feelings with out getting in a huff. I hate it when people see me upset, let along crying. I’d rather someone took me out to do something fun and my mind off the grief rather than sit there and pity me.
Being pitied is the WORST!
I believe that most people don’t understand how a sagittarius’ emotions work and how past feelings and situations work their way in to the present. And just because we still feel those feelings now doesn’t mean that those situations reflect one anyone now or that we are still attached to the past, Its like we replay our past “games” to correct our mistakes for the future… to put it in sports terms.
I find that if I’m feeling blue I DON’T want to talk about it, I want a hug or a closeness, good food and drink.
All sagittarius need is just TIME.We will eventually recover from the bad things that happen.We hate sympathy because it just make us as a hopeless person.Don’t chase or push us to hard because it will make us suffocating and we will wish to never ever see you again.Let sagittarius come to you rather than you come to them.
This is going to be a very unusual topic. I am a 33 year old libra pre-op transexual and I have been talking to a 55 year old male sag. he called me from an escort ad. It was just business at first and then it started into a personal relationship with texting and asking me out on dates and having me stay over night at his place. This started september 2012 and has been going on since. We have never talked about anything until recently. He asked me back in march to go on vacation with him for 5 days in may and all i had to do was pay for my ticket. I was so excited. Well things fell behind and by the time I was able to get my tickets the price went through the roof and I couldnt’ get them. He said he understood and left it at that. I started to get distant and not text as much. He texted me on the plain before they were going to depart and I asked him what we were. He said like “bf, gf, dating” and i said yes. He asked, “well what are we”. and I said i dunno, that’s why I’m asking you. (during a few times during sex he called me his girlfriend and i didn’t know if it was the heat of the moment or what). I told him it takes a lot for me to let my guard down and I let it down with him and that i’m starting to get too involved and am a little confused. He said it takes a lot for him to let his guard down as well and would like to get to know me better and that 5 days in a hotel is a perfect way to do that. I said I know and that I’m really sorry. He said it’s ok, we will go somewhere sometime. Then i said “be careful with the online thing (escort sites) because it can be risky anywhere. And he replied with “Oh i don’t know what i’m doing other than laying by the pool”. (i think i may have offended him by saying that). Then I proceeded to open up more and tell him that i miss him very much, that I really like him, i think about him 24/7, i wait for the days that i get to see him and that everytime I think about kissing him i get all flustered. he didn’t respond right back, but when he did he just said “taking off” with a few smily faces. When he was in the air I texted him and said that i have a friend who travels and owes me a favor and she could use her points to get me to vegas (she had more than enough points). I told him that I can fly out the next day and be back on the return flight with him. i told him i wouldn’t buy any tickets until i heard from him. Well it was about 2.5 hours after his flight landed and i hadn’t heard back from him so i texted him “hope you made it there ok”. He finally texted back about an hour later saying “sorry, phone died, fell aslep by the pool. I just need some relaxing time so no need to come down”. I was heart broked when he said that and i just reponded “oh ok”. that night I texted him “good night” and he texted back about a half hour later “good night”. usually he texts me “good night sweet dreams” with a bunch of hearts or smiley faces or says something cute with it. I keep thinking I messed everything up somehow or maybe he was just not into me the way that I was into him. Please help.
update, well it’s been a whole day and I finally got a text this morning. i told him good luck on his presentation today. he said thanks and that he was a little nervous. I tried to boost his confidence up by telling him he is going to be ok. he sent me a pic of him on a horse and i wold him he looks sexy on a horse and looks like fun. he said thank you. i asked what else he did. he asked what i was doing and filled him in on that. asked him what his plans were for the rest of the vacation. then i sent a pic of myself to him and he replied “you look great” and i said thanks. then i said “you are one sexy man! but i will let you go. good luck. break a leg. you’ll be great! and enjoy the rest of your vacation cutie” and he said thank you babe. But still no cute smiley faces like he always does. I’m still upset and everything, i really miss him but i’m holding my emotions in and just letting it seem like i’m ok.
The prob here is your chasing too hard.. keep it light and fun.. don’t be afraid to let go of him a little. Sag men love to do the chasing. If he really wants to be with you he will no matter what. Ease up a bit.. check on him periodically and wait for him to get back to you don’t text him too much, this will drive him away as the sag likes their freedom….
My sagittarius n I are working on our relationship, he is standing firm about not getting back together until he gets himself together financially and he also says I need to do the same .. There’s a 7 yr difference between us.. I want to know will he keep his word? It’s been really difficult dealing with it I’m used to him telling me we will never break up.. Bt I hurt him now he is saying he wants to repair and I need to be careful this time.. It’s seems like I seem to piss him off lately because I’m coming off sometimes as forcing him to do things we did or how he ws before n he throws n my face that I didn’t appreciate it before.. What do I do .. I love him.. #Pisces female
I am a Pisces and i am with a sag man. Not every guy is like that they learn and also if something goes wrong we made a system either not talk for hour and let us have space think about it or fuss over little stuff so the big arguments arent bad. Sag mean have very big tempers so try to compliment them and be nice girls if your guy is suffering dont just get him a card give him your ear and make sure to listen actually care about him. The relationship we have is going amazing we did break up the first time but we learned we cant live without eachother help. Understand and put boundaries. Do not be clingy or over react they will go away. All i can say “may the odds be in your favor” and if it meant to be it will happen. 😛
I’m a Scorpio and in love with a Sag Man. We have known each other for over 10 years and he has always been the person standing by me through all of my difficult times. He always says the sweetest things no men ever said and always ever ready to loan me his shoulder, money and even house when I left my ex and was homeless for couple of weeks. The more I resisted him, the more angrier and upset he gets. But he usually cools down when I speak softly and explain the kind of person I am.
When he got attached I was crushed and decided to completely stop talking to him. Two years into his relationship… I was in a dark side of my life again and felt no one understood me but him so I dropped him a message ‘Hello’ and we started conversing again like before. It’s like as if in the two years we never stopped talking…and finally after few days, he confessed his feelings that I have always been the woman he loved. I was beyond shocked…and being a usual secret keeper I oddly opened up easily and told him that I have always thought he was the perfect guy for me but thought he only treated me as a troubled friend so did nothing more.
He got upset and said if only he was daring enough to have told me the truth…he wouldn’t have to be sad and feeling regret now. Over the 10 years he thought I have always treated him as a brother and nothing more so he said he swallowed and kept the feelings to himself.
We talked openly about our feelings and he kept reminiscing about when he fell for me etc… and just last week my BFF decided to speed things up took my phone when I was out of sight and texted him from my phone that I will be buying a ticket to go visit (oh he is in Europe and I am in Asia – we are both working in different parts of the world)… the message said enough of the ‘I Love You’s’ I need to find out…and I will come see you just let me know when…’
I was mad when I saw the msg…and felt for sure the guy would never reply. And true enough, his only respond was a
and aft that nothing…
Then after few days he texted me and acted normal like those msgs didnt come true…and asked me how was my day and if I wasnt frequently messaging to him because I was busy. I replied yes and also apologised about the msg the other day…
He then didnt respond for few days until I asked him why so silent… and his only flat response was ‘Sorry very busy here and limited connectivity’…and that was it… it’s been a week now…
I fear I may have completely lost him…
Please advise.
I’m a male Leo who’s in love wit a female sagittarius…I’ve experienced tha free mind thing n a previous relationship wit a sag….Guess I didn’t learn my lesson…I’m in search of answers nd closure…I specifically told her dat I dnt wanna b n a relationship until she’s rdy…Not gonna force ne issues…Nd finally she comes 2 me one day nd says we your in a relationship…But I find out later tha she’s still hanging out wit her ex @ disrespectful hrs…Not to mention txtn random guys…Wat is tha meaning of this wen she swears she loves me…