Sagittarius is possibly one of the most difficult of all the astrological signs when it comes to living harmoniously. While they are certainly very loyal and devoted as both friends and lovers, they are also prone to sudden outbursts of anger and frustration. While this is not something you should take personally, it may indeed be something you have difficulty understanding and tolerating. After all, not everyone can continue a relationship of any kind with someone who has the tendency to fly off the handle, sometimes for no apparent reason. In order to maintain any kind of relationship with a Sagittarius—friend or lover—you need to be prepared for these sudden angry outbursts and understand it is during these times you are better off to just sit and be quiet or walk away until the anger subsides.
Another problem many people have when it comes to having any kind of a relationship with a Sagittarius is their tendency to place their careers above everything else. This means there may be times when you make plans to go out, and something at work comes up preventing you from going through with your plans. It may be something that appears unimportant to you, but to the Sagittarius anything that involves his or her career is more important than anything else. They are very driven individuals by nature, a trait than is very difficult for those who are not committed to their careers to the same intensity to understand and tolerate. This can cause a great deal of disappointment and even animosity when both individuals are headstrong and unwilling to compromise.
Sagittarians are also adventurous individuals who find it almost impossible to stay still. They must also be doing something, and if you tempt to confine them you will make them unhappy. They need to have freedom to do the things they enjoy doing, and if you are unable or unwilling to join them in their quests for adventure, you must allow them to pursue those adventures on their own or with another friend. While it is easy to believe these traits might make the Sagittarius an unsuitable—or unwilling—partner for marriage that is certainly not the case. However, it does mean the person who is fortunate enough to get Sagittarius to commit to marriage will also need to have a great deal of strength and endurance to handle this adventurous individual.
Because of the adventurous nature of the Sagittarius, it is essential to keep him or her interested. Remember, they do not like to feel confined or tied down even if they are in a romantic relationship or marriage. Some people may see this need for freedom as a sign of restlessness, and while that may be partly true, this does not mean that the Sagittarius is unable to achieve a lasting relationship that includes marriage and devotion to family. One of the things you want to do if you are involved with a Sagittarius either as a friend or partner is take the time to engage in some of the activities he or she enjoys. While someone who has the same adventurous nature is the perfect match for a Sagittarius, you can build a good relationship by sharing some of the activities that are important to your friend or partner. Of course, if you have a total aversion to some of those activities (for instance, you won’t go hunting because you don’t believe in killing animals for sport or you won’t skydive because you have a fear of heights), you can still get around the problem by allowing your friend or mate to engage in those activities alone or with a friend who enjoys the same activities.
In terms of family life there are two problems that are likely to create a less than harmonious situation unless the couple is willing to work together and develop a compromise. One of the first problems is their tendency to be very indulgent parents. In order to overcome this problem there is a need for the other parent in the home to be responsible for setting down the ground rules for the children. Another problem that may occur in the home of Sagittarius is their need to invest heavily into their careers. This can cause both their spouses and children to feel neglected. It often appears they are married to their careers rather than their spouses, and this can cause friction within the household if you are not careful.
You never want to attempt to change a Sagittarius in order to fit your mold. You must accept them for what they are and work diligently at compromise in order to prevent them from feeling confined or restrained in the relationship. They have the need to feed their adventurous natures and they will resent any attempt by anyone to restrain them from expressing this part of their personalities. If your Sagittarius mate thinks for a moment you are attempting to restrain him or prevent him from engaging in those activities that are part of his adventurous nature, he is likely to become very frustrated and may even look for other ways to engage in some adventure.
It’s important to remember that in spite of some of the faults Sagittarius may seem to have, you cannot find a more loyal friend or devoted spouse or partner. While they are adventurous and unable to sit still, it is difficult to find anyone who would be more on your side and willing to stay with you through thick and thin. While they are high achievers and very driven individuals, they also believe in carrying their own weight. You won’t find a Sagittarius who is willing to sit back and let someone else take care of him or her—he needs to be active and being active also means he must be actively pursuing his career and working to get ahead. His ambitions will help
him find ways to pursue his love of adventure.